It’s Bad When…

You know it’s bad when you 18 year old sister no long wants to raid your closet for her upcoming date night or your husband asks “is that what you’re wearing tonight?” when you’re about to head out for dinner. That’s exactly what’s happening to me now. I’m not saying I’ve always been the most savvy dresser or that I wore the latest trends, but once upon a time I did know how to put together a decent outfit or two. So what’s happened between then and now? Here’s my answer – I became a mom.

Don’t get me wrong, being a mom is the greatest thing in the world and I love my little girl to pieces, but when she came along I lost focus on myself. It’s typical for moms to put their kids first but it’s also importand for us to realize that we’re important too and our roles are not just as mothers, but as women too. And if we work outside the home, like I do, it’s important to look presentable. The past few years, yes ladies I said “years”, I feel like I’ve lost myself. I’ve been so concerned about being “mom” that I forgot about me. Before I got pregnant, I used to treat myself to weekly manicures, monthly hair appointments, go shopping every couple weeks just so I’d have something new. I took time each day to do my hair, makeup and even have a little breakfast before leaving for work. Now I’m up at 5:45, jump in the shower, tie my damp hair in a ponytail or bun, throw on whatever clothes are clean, grab my daughter from bed and drive her over to mommom’s before work. I never took the time to look in the mirror to see if what I was wearing even looked good on me. Part of the reason for that was because of the recent and not so recent weight gain. I wasn’t happy with the way I looked and tried to avoid mirrors whenever possible. Read more…