Is Your Relationship At Risk?by Sarah Dyer
I don’t know about you, but if there is one more headline about a celebrity, politician or athlete and their infidelity I’m going to stop getting news updates all together. I’m sick of it, and frankly I find it reflects poorly on the rest of us who are doing our best to keep our relationships healthy and intact.
Tiger Woods, Brett Favre, Eliot Spitzer, Anthony Weiner, David Letterman, Jesse James, Arnold Schwarzenegger. These men were all married to gorgeous, successful women, most of them have a family. So we think they aren’t much different than ourselves. Well they are. They have a delusion of power that makes them think they are above getting caught. Or they aren’t happy in their own marriages, in which case the answer should be, end it and move on.
My concern for the rest of us is that the more frequently we’re bombarded with news of men who cheat (I’ll generalize and say men, I know women do too, but they don’t make the headlines as often) we can’t help but have that little voice in our head start to question our own relationships. Don’t succumb to it!! Squash it and go on with your usual ways. If you have always been in a trusting relationship with your spouse, don’t let these news headlines be the catalyst that begins your erosion of trust.
On the radio this morning they were talking about GPS underwear that you can give to your boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife and I thought, SERIOUSLY?!?! Is this where we’re at? You’re going to suggest that we stalk our partners. Nobody wants to be the person that gets blindsided by a cheating spouse, it’s a crappy situation to be in. But the stress involved in assuming your partner is cheating, when objectively all signs point to the fact that they aren’t, will put enough strain on your relationship that it will drive it right into the ground.
I’ll take being blindsided any day over actively sabotaging my relationship because of a lack of trust. Plus, I think I’m a pretty good wife, so if my husband finds someone else then it is his loss. Alright, truthfully, I’m not naive enough to think that it can’t happen to me, but I’m not going to let it be because of me.
Trust your spouse as you always have and expend the effort you would have in tracking your spouse’s every move to maintaining the passion and partnership that has gotten you this far. And if all else fails maybe we can send a joint letter to the media and request that they stop covering these stories.