The effects of divorce are profound. Not unlike death or a life threatening illness, divorce pushes the boundaries of what most people think they can tolerate in terms of emotional struggle. While life greatest challenges seem unbearable when they are happening, research shows that there may be benefits to building your adversity muscles.
When you think your spouse might be having an affair you feel it in your gut. Something seems off, but you can’t be specific and you may not have any hard evidence to prove what you are sensing is true. This uncertainty can be unbearable. You will do anything to know the truth.
In the United States, 3.4 of every 1,000 people divorce each year, according to October 2010 data from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. You certainly don't imagine, on the happiest day of your life, that the man messily feeding you the first piece of wedding cake could turn into a bitter, vengeful enemy in the courtroom. But, if your happy ending looks unlikely, naivete about the divorce process -- such as thinking you'll save money and time by sharing a lawyer -- can bring high costs, both emotional and financial.
The following is a list of things you can do to make your children's lives easier after a divorce. Read these tips as reminders of what you and your co-parent should be doing to ease the stress of divorce on your children. Remember that the reason why you should do these things is that if you don't your children will join the ranks of those who become emotionally hurt by the process of divorce.
Divorce is all about halves so it's not surprising that we say that people "split up", or that the word divorce is rooted in divide. With divorce everything you thought was whole is now half. Finances, assets, kids, friends, and your sense of self are just a few of the ways you can feel halved with your divorce.
The airwaves are saturated with the storybook fantasy of Britain's Prince William to Kate Middleton. Their fairytale romance is a light of hope in a world where the divorce rate stays steady. One of the questions on nearly every divorced person's mind when they read about Prince William and Kate Middleton's engagement is "will it last?"
One of the greatest fears that surfaces with divorce is the fear of
being alone. Whether it’s the fear of growing old alone, sleeping
alone, eating alone or just plain being alone, the depth of fear it
evokes can be debilitating. There is no other time that this is more
pronounced than around the holidays. Negative fantasies about
how the holiday season will be spent can spiral any newly separated or
divorced person into a panic attack.
Separation and divorce is traumatic for the whole family, yet each
person within the family will have a unique experience when it comes
to dealing and healing from this life transition. Learning to honor
and respect each family members emotional response to the separation
and divorce is an important part of moving on in a healthy adaptive
way.
There’s a Chinese proverb that says “You can hardly make a friend in a
year, but you can lose one in an hour.” David Arquette did that last
week when he went on national radio and spoke about his separation
with wife Courtney Cox.
It's the tragic story everyone's been talking about: 33 miners have been trapped 2,300 feet below the earth's surface in a mine located in the northern Chilean city of Copiapo, 500 miles north of Santiago. As if that's not bad enough, they've been down there since August 5th and only 21 have been lifted out as of this afternoon's rescue. This story is as sad as it is terrifying, and it is debatable whether it's caused more grief for the miners themselves or for those they've left on the surface.
