- At Home
I’m back home in LA, my favorite place to be. Today I begin my west coast tour. Early morning calls all week, talking to radio stations all over the country, TV press in the afternoons, and book signings at night. It’s totally surreal to finally see my book in stores, its scary to put it out there, and it’s a relief to be getting such loving feedback. I have been asked so many times during the past week to sum up what my book is about. It’s so hard.
I wrote my intro many times trying to define the contents of The Naked Mom. I have realized after many, many interviews that my book isn’t just for moms, it’s for women, men and anyone who loves them. It’s really about not losing your sense of self when you make a commitment to another or even to raising a family. So many women become parents and suddenly life is all about the kids. I used to be that mom. Now after 4 times around the block, I know how much I matter too. I know that my relationship is equally as important as my children. I have always considered myself a good mom, but today I know that I have to nurture my relationship and myself as must as I do my children.
At moments during my tour I began to sound like one of those self help preachers, (don’t think I haven’t traveled that road for my own advice) hearing myself encouraging woman to believe that they can accomplish their goals while raising a family. I’m a devoted mother, my family has always come first, but I am also devoted to my man and to my career. My book is about that journey and how I manage the chaos of my every day life. I have always known that there are many common denominators related to raising a family, whether you’re in LA, NY, Paris, or Idaho. What I love and appreciate most is when women can share their experiences, relate and learn from one another. That’s why I wrote my book. I had such a positive and valuable experience blogging for ModernMom, and I had so much more to tell. Thank you for all the feedback, and for sharing many stories of your own.
There is much comfort in knowing that we are all going through similar things, even the ugly ones. My book is not your cheeky Celebrity “How To have a life like Mine” guide. I am certainly not going to go there! It’s about living your best life, taking it day by day, and making the most of your world. I used to be ok being last on the list and was barely keeping up with everyone else’s needs. Today, I am listening to my own needs, and doing what I can to provide for everyone else. On days when I can’t, I accept that too. I find myself excepting lots of things, and I promise you it’s a heck of a lot easier than letting expectations deflate you. Now don’t misinterpret acceptance for being indifferent, because I am far from that. You just have to change your point of view from time to time.
If you’re anything like me, raising four kids, and a blended family, then you’re doing a lot of changing, every day, learning all the way.
Thank you for inspiring me to write and to share my story. I hope to see you on tour somewhere. If not, I’d love to personalize a book for you. You can get one here
I’ll be dishing with my friend Holly Robinson Pete today on The Talk, LIVE. We’ll be discussing divorce and raising a blended family. I hope to see you there!