When you became a mother, you probably never anticipated having to parent alone. And for those of you who are separated or divorced, you might find yourself thinking, “Had I known I would have had to do this alone, I don’t know if I would have had kids.”
Though technically a romantic comedy, Crazy, Stupid, Love, offers an authentic and approachable picture of the earliest moments of separation and divorce.
The majestic owl, known for his wisdom, sits high above the chaos perched on a branch watching the world as he soaks in what everyone else is to busy to notice. Divorce is chaotic, and it's easy to get swept up in the day to day challenges. Life passes by, and many important moments get missed.
Holidays are always a tough time when transitioning through divorce.
As the 4th of July fast approaches you may be feeling a sense of panic
or dread. Holidays trigger nostalgic feelings about past celebrations,
and the open ended amount of time you once loved may now feel like a
black hole. The loss of friends and not having your children due to
your divorce can compound the issue, so here are some Divorce Detox
tips to help you through the 4th of July weekend.
Divorce has a bright side: the opportunity to restart your life. As you detox and heal you may discover a better version of yourself than you have ever known. Here are some benefits of being one adult:
* Easy to get a table in a busy restaurant (or sit at the bar)
* Listen to any music and sing out loud
* Your time is your own
When divorcing couples are asked what they consider to be their greatest gift from their marriage, the answer is almost always unanimously “my children”. Additionally, most divorcing parents will tell you that their children are their greatest concern, and their number one priority.
Valentines Day is one of the worst days of the year for those going through separation or divorce. Hearts are in the air, store windows are plastered with pink and red, chocolates and roses are prominently displayed for purchase in grocery stores. Romance and love seem to be the only possibility during this time leaving those who don’t have it feeling left out and depressed. The incredible influx of Valentine’s Day paraphernalia makes it seem as though there is no one in the world who is not in love and in an everlasting relationship.
The effects of divorce are profound. Not unlike death or a life threatening illness, divorce pushes the boundaries of what most people think they can tolerate in terms of emotional struggle. While life greatest challenges seem unbearable when they are happening, research shows that there may be benefits to building your adversity muscles.
When you think your spouse might be having an affair you feel it in your gut. Something seems off, but you can’t be specific and you may not have any hard evidence to prove what you are sensing is true. This uncertainty can be unbearable. You will do anything to know the truth.
In this day in age, when everything in the world seems to be changing and evolving- from the economy, to the environment, to the boom of the internet world- it's only fitting that the institution of marriage should be changing as well. In a recent Times article, a few interesting and thought provoking questions were posed: Who needs marriage? What is marriage for, and for whom? And finally, Is it obsolete?
