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I don’t need to tell you about the Amanda Todd tragedy. All I can say is that when these high profile stories hit the media, it is an opportunity for parents to sit down with their kids and find some teachable moments woven within the tragedy.
I sat down with my tweens and watched the video - and here is my advice about having the conversation:
1) Before giving them information, ask them what they already know. Even if your kids are not on Facebook or into texting friends, their peers are talking. Find out what they already know and use that as a springboard for your conversation.
2) Don’t shy away from the tough conversations. If you deliver the information, it means you control the message and can present it in an age appropriate way. By talking to them, you are showing that you are open to hard conversations. It allows you to be the one to field their tricky questions.
3) Within the Amanda Todd YouTube video, there is opportunity to talk about many issues that kids face: suicide, stalking, cutting and even sexism. My daughter asked why a 13-year-old girl would “flash.” It’s a good question. Why do young girls want to appear desirable to manipulative creeps? What pressure are our girls facing?
What other parenting lessons are there in this story?
No one said this parenting gig would be easy, but certainly some weeks are harder than others. Did you talk to your kids about this tragedy? How did you deliver the information and how was it received?