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I cringe when I hear someone tell one of my single girlfriends that they need to be less picky if they are going to find a mate. In fact, I find it offensive enough that it makes me want to punch the antagonizer on my friend’s behalf. I can’t believe this is something that people feel like they can tell someone. I’ve heard it said multiple times to different friends or about different friends and I think we all need to just stop.
For those of us that have been lucky enough to find our partners, was there really a checklist that you had and if someone didn’t meet the right criteria then they were ousted? Of course not! The truth is, finding your partner isn’t about a list of qualities that they have, it’s a feeling you get in your stomach when you’re around them. It’s an intangible chemistry, not a laundry list of character traits.
So next time our single friends are frustrated by their lack of progress in the dating scene instead of telling them to lower the bar, let’s try supporting them and telling them their mate is worth waiting for and he’s/she’s coming, but their taking their time.
Everyone deserves to have a partner that is the best thing that ever happened to them. And no one needs to settle for anything less...ever.