"One reason people resist change is that they focus on what they have to give up, rather than what they have to gain."A recent article on the Huffington Post titled You’re Doing It Right, Brooke Burke-Charvet, written by the lovely David Kessler, really hit home for me. I’m certain many people across our country faced with job security fears will appreciate his words. Unexpected change is challenging, but the way in which we choose to deal with it is most important and character-defining.My not-returning-to Dancing with the Stars has made quite a splash in the press over the past week. The only shocking thing about it, for me, was the way in which it all went down. Finding out that I would not be returning to the ballroom just weeks before the premiere was quite a shake up. I would have appreciated a heads-up and the courtesy of communication, but we are not always privileged to get that in the work place. My kids were in the car when I got the call and my son shouted, “You got fired Mommy?!” I tried to explain the difference between being fired and being let go. Then he yelled, “You quit!” I laughed at the fine line in it all. Then I did my very best to describe to my children the reality of change and the need to maneuver through it with grace. In the bigger picture, this is a positive change for me and I honestly believe this is the optimum time for me to dance out of the ballroom.I had eight (NOT seven, as written everywhere) fabulous seasons co-hosting the show. It was a blast! I made many friends, which I will keep and support in every way. I had the honor to work beside Tom Bergeron, whom I adore and have great respect for. I learned many valuable life lessons and TV skills in the chaos of live television. I am very grateful for my time at DWTS and I’m never greedy - eight seasons was the perfect run. I will always celebrate my coveted Mirrorball trophy and all that it parlayed me into. I’ll never forget dancing in the arms of the brilliant Derek Hough and how he helped me to find the rhythm in my own world. Today I’m buried in new possibilities. I have no hard feeling and no regrets. I sincerely have to thank all my faithful, funny and crazy fans. You made me laugh and warmed me during a transitional time and I adore you guys! Thank you, thank you.I can't exactly say I know “how to handle change like a champ” as David Kessler wrote, but what I do know is this…. The way in which you walk out is equally as important as the way you stroll in. That goes for life, love, and everything in between.
Just in, holy moly, my girlfriend's daughter got an "A" on her math test and I had to share this and re-evaluate my recent blog. A couple of things crossed my mind: do we stress our kids out so much that they're destined to fail? Do we not have as much confidence in them as they do in themselves? Do we totally underestimate our kids? Do we project negative feelings on our kids? Are we more consumed with the worst case scenario than they are? ... probably, I mean that’s part of the mommy make-up.Or was it simply knowing that an "F" wasn't the end all - life would go on - and then letting go of that worry that freed up an opportunity to conquer?I had to know what the turning point was and how a potential failing grade became a mark of excellence. "What the heck happened?," I asked my Malibu mama. “Who knew?!?"She said, "Just telling her to do her best and know that whatever grade she received - it was going to be ok, lifted so much pressure off of both of us that she went in there and kicked ass."The opportunity to grow from a challenge and to learn how to deal with failure was both crucial in her development and amazing. But even more so, the lesson of knowing how to let go of stress, to value the importance of hard work and to have faith that your best is good enough was a huge growth spurt for both mother and child. It could possibly free up anyone to achieve the impossible.Best news of the day was my friend’s daughter’s A. As my little Rainbow would say, "she turned that frown upside down."I remember when Derek Hough and I won Season 7 of Dancing with the Stars. We stood in the ballroom wings, before we stepped onto the dance floor to perform our freestyle – which by the way we had never run beginning to end because of a couple injuries and some very risky tricks – and we were scared out of our minds! We gave each other that "we’re-already-winners" kind of look. Not the competition, but the experience. We knew that getting that far was good enough and that we had already done the impossible. We felt like winners regardless of the impossible chance that we'd be hoisting the Mirror Ball above our heads that night.I remember that feeling. I remember the moments we let go of the pressure that too many people put on themselves. That freedom allowed us to get out there and kill it and win it. Kind of crazy, but think about it: don't dwell on the negative, let go of the stress it’s toxic. Always, every day do your best and know that it's good enough. You never know, you just might surprise yourself.
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