Dr. Andrea a.k.a DrAndreaBonior
Andrea (Gaynor) Bonior is a licensed clinical psychologist, professor, and writer. For more than five years, Dr. Bonior has written the twice-weekly mental health column “Baggage Check” for the Washington Post’s Express newspaper, known for its wit and frequent pop culture references. She’s frequently cited in other media, with her expertise most recently appearing on CNN.com, MSNBC.com, Yahoo!, and Voice of America, and she makes regular appearances on Washington, DC’s “Let’s Talk Live.” Her first book, “The Friendship Fix: The Complete Guide to Choosing, Losing, and Keeping Up With Your Friends” (Thomas Dunne/St. Martin’s), is due out this Winter. In addition to serving on the adjunct faculty of Georgetown University, she maintains a private clinical psychology practice.
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Stress relief. When things get crazy, you might feel far too busy to schedule that brunch. But when you’re slammed, that’s actually when you need your friends the most: the laughter, distraction, and catharsis that they can provide are among the best medicine there is.
Volunteer. I know, I know. You barely have time to buy new underwear. How could you possibly commit to a soup kitchen?
There's bound to be that one mother who can't seem to leave you alone. No matter what the situation, she finds a way to execute a snide remark about your cooking, parenting, or multitasking skills. You've been doing your best not to butt heads with her, but it is just getting really hard! Here are a couple tips to handle that crazy MILP: Remember It's Not About You. As easy as ...
What's your real motivation? And are you on the same page? Be honest with yourself. If you really want to friend your ex, then it can’t just be to gaze at his smile or to jealously assess whether his wife is hotter than you.
Who doesn't have a Facebook horror story, or a terrible Twitter tale, or has simple found themselves in desperate need of a friendship fix? Should you friend your ex on Facebook? Your co-workers? Your mother-in-law? How do you break up with a friend? How do you make friends, now that you’re a grown woman?
1) You’d better get some sleep now! Sure, when your friend’s newborn enters the world, she may lose so much rest that she’ll feel she’s been hit by a Mac truck. But isn’t it a bit early to be reminding her of that? In fact, her pregnancy symptomology itself- no matter how early it is- might be making it all too difficult for her to sleep in the here and now. Even if not, this clichéd advice will fall on deaf ears, and only serve to make her dread the newborn phase.
Let's face it- Halloween has come a long way from the days when a sheet with eye-holes counted as a legitimate costume. The more that the holiday has become an adult celebration-- what bar now doesn't host a costume contest?-- the more that the edgy, "grown-up" aspects of it trickle down to the tween and tot set.
Hate is such a strong word, of course (how’s “abhor?”). But let’s face it: sometimes your fellow-Mommy soul mate comes attached with the child of your nightmares. How is it that a woman who is so cool, and seems to agree with so many of your parenting philosophies, has a kid so diametrically opposed to yours (or so you’d like to believe)? You love hanging out with her, but you don’t know how much more of her child you can take. Here’s what to do before smoke starts pouring from your ears:
Perhaps you always talk about doing it, but it never seems to happen. Why is it that you just can’t bring yourself to schedule that facial, or spend a Saturday afternoon reading magazines in a coffeehouse, or finally get that Moms’ Happy Hour to come together?
Perhaps you always talk about doing it, but it never seems to happen. Why is it that you just can’t bring yourself to schedule that facial, or spend a Saturday afternoon reading magazines in a coffeehouse, or finally get that Moms’ Happy Hour to come together? Though it’s sometimes hard to take the plunge, here are five reasons why taking time for you - and your friends - is something that you owe to your family as well as yourself:
After you become a parent, it seems your Facebook personality can grow a new life as well. All of a sudden, you’re faced with an unbeatable way to share pictures of your little one, join the cause of boycotting those unsafe sippy cups, and check out who else is up at the ungodly hours you’re now intimately familiar with. And that’s all fine and good. But certain common behaviors among new parents can spell trouble. Are you guilty of any? 1. Paging Dr.
Becoming a mother for the first time can leave you lonely and vulnerable. It might even make you question what you still have in common with your single BFFs (who wouldn’t know a bassinet from a basset hound. ) Naturally, it can be extremely helpful to expand your circle and add some other new moms to the mix. But before you get sucked into friendships that will do more harm than good, make sure to familiarize yourself with some of the energy-draining, stress-producing sharks that commonly infest the playgroup waters:
Becoming a mother for the first time can leave you lonely and vulnerable. It might even make you question what you still have in common with your single BFFs (who wouldn’t know a bassinet from a basset hound. ) Naturally, it can be extremely helpful to expand your circle and add some other new moms to the mix.