Donna a.k.a dvolpitta
Donna Volpitta, Ed.D., is an educator, author, and parenting expert who is passionate about the field of resilience. Through her Nametags Education Program, Pathways to Empower Curriculum, parenting book and teacher and parent workshops, she offers practical strategies to build resilience in children. Her book, The Resilience Formula: The Key to Proactive Parenting, co-authored by bullying expert Dr. Joel Haber, is due to come out in early 2012. Her website is www.URresilient.com
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Recently, MSNBC did a segment on education and the growing realization that academic ability is less likely to predict future success than qualities such as perseverance and resilience.
Once there lived an ant and a grasshopper in a grassy meadow. All day long the ant would work hard, collecting grains of wheat from the farmer's field far away. She would hurry to the field every morning, as soon as it was light enough to see by, and toil back with a heavy grain of wheat balanced on her head.
The media is filled with news about bullying. The question is, does all of the attention help to decrease the bullying? Unfortunately, the answer is not clear.
Last week I was honored to be able to spend each day traveling to different schools with Chris Waddell as he presents his Nametags program. Chris, a good friend from Middlebury College, started doing Nametags three years ago when he launched his foundation, One-Revolution.</p
The Penn State sex-abuse scandal has people up in arms, and in some ways we find ourselves in a similar position as when the scandal in the Catholic church was exposed - stung by the realization of the extent to which people will go to conceal what they wish to deny.
I have a trampoline. Several kids bounce on it at once. And a treehouse. Both present my kids with what I call "calculated risk"--I know that there is a chance that they could get hurt, yet I let them play anyway. We go hiking and climb the big rocks. We pull over to the side of the road to pick raspberries.
It’s that time again..summer. Most of us are excited to take a little break from the school routine--waking up early, rushing out to get everyone to school on time, and, worst of all, making sure all of the homework is done. Summer vacation offers a chance for a little bit more relaxation, but it can quickly go from relaxing to reacting if you aren’t careful.
“That’s beautiful, honey! I love it.” “You are such a great artist!” “Awesome job!” Don’t we want our kids to have positive self-esteem? So, complimenting them is a good thing, right? That depends. Self-esteem is a funny thing. We can’t make our kids feel good about themselves by showering them with praise. In fact, that has the potential to actually do just the opposite.
Sure, the umbilical cord was cut when your baby was born. Someone dramatically made that SNIP, severing the physical connection between you and your child. Perhaps it was epidural, perhaps the sheer exhaustion after giving birth, but that SNIP didn’t hurt a bit.
I have found that many teenagers are being coddled too much by doting parents. So when it comes time to go to college, they break down because they haven’t been taught independence skills. I have seen so many kids so sheltered that they have a terrible time with the basics of
Wow! There was such great feedback from the homework article that I thought a follow-up would be good. Apparently, this is a hot-button topic! It hit a nerve for 2 reasons: 1) Parents realize that kids are not getting the time that they need for play and 2) Parents want specific strategies to use the time that they have with their kids most “effectively.”
A few weeks ago, the Wall Street Journal sent moms into a tizzy with the book review of the "Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother." That story got more hits on their web site than any other ever had. Talk about hitting a nerve. Following were many rebuttals in defense of the "lazy Western moms." What we really need is moderation.
Recently I attended a parenting talk by Joel Haber, author of Bullyproofing Your Child For Life. Most parenting seminars that I attend are not very well attended, but this one was packed. Why? “Bullying” and “Cyberbullying” have become the trigger words for fear in parents. We recognize that we have limits in our ability to protect our children, and it seems that these are the catch-phrases for the danger that lurks beyond.
It has been quite a while now since I have had the chance to blog on Modern Mom. It has been a hectic few months, but with my youngest child making it to 3 years old, I am amazed at the changes that are taking place. I have four children, ranging in age from 3 to 9, 2 boys and 2 girls. I am filled with wonder as I am finally getting the opportunity to take a breath and watch their development and their interaction with one another.
The other day my son had a sore on his lip. He has had these sores on and off throughout his life. He knows that we have medicine that will stop the spread of the virus, but he also knows that the medicine hurts. When I saw the sore, I told him that I was going to put the medicine on it. He screamed and pulled away. Eventually, after trying to reason with him, I tolds him that as much as I did not want to, his father and I would need to force him to put the medicine on because a) it would save him long-term pain, and b) it would protect others from the spread of the virus.
The statistics are frightening: *One-in-four girls aged 14-19 in the United States have at least one of the five most common sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), based on data analyzed by the CDC.
If you are really concerned about your child in school, it might be time to make a referral to special education. This doesn't mean that he or she will automatically be in special education, but if a child is having difficulty, a referral begins the process of finding out if special ed is necessary. According to the law, anyone can make a referral for special education services. Before children enter school, pediatricians are often ...
When I was in high school, I had a biology teacher who would sit at the front of the room with her text book in front of her. Her lesson basically consisted of sitting at the front of the room, reading through the highlighted words of each section. At the end of each page, she would say, "Questions, any questions? No questions? Good." The problem was, she never looked up from the book, and we sat in our rows with our hands waving through the air. Clueless.
When I was a kid, mine was the backpack with the three-week old peanut butter sandwich. My bedroom was a disaster area. My roommate from collage picked me out because mine was the only application with food stains. You get the idea--I was an organizational disaster.
One of my friends once called and told me that she planned to hire a tutor for her five-year old child to teach him how to read. When I told her that at his age he was not expected to read, she told me that although she knew that he didn't need to read at that point, she did not know how to help him. She was trained in business--had an MBA from one of the top schools in the country--but that didn't help when it came to helping her child know how to read. Here are some of the tips that I gave her.