What should I do with my evil mother-in-law to be?

* All I can say is RUN as fast as you can and do not get married...I've been in the same situation for going on 15 yrs now...We do not have children together but he has raised mine since they were babies so for that reason I stay...I can't tell you how many years I haven't spoken to his family..Right now it's been 4 yrs this time that they, in particular her are not welcome in my home..Since I had my home and everything in it when I met him I can easily say I don't want that woman in my house...It's nothing but trouble and heartache..Your going to tire of this and get upset when he's not backing you or saying something to put her in line for you...I do have to say as much as I detest his mother and sister I have never been verbally disrespectful..I just stop speaking to them. Period....Good Luck !...Diana

O, you poor girl. I have a MIL that began to have "issues" with me when my husband and I moved in together. It was-I took her man of the house. I can say after dating/marraige of 10 years, it will never get better. Trust me, I have tried. I have been so sweet and thought of her at every turn. But, the nephew's x-girlfriend (which they had a baby together) with whom my in laws are constantly battling in family court, always seems to still be the "better one". Love yourself, know who you are and aren't and don't change!!! She is trying to weaken your relationship with him. If you constantly bug him about his mom that is how he will feel "bugged". Keep your distance and start your own family. They are who really matter. If she is anything like my MIL she still does not accept me after two beautiful granchildren. BE YOURSELF!!! That is who your man fell in love with-YOU!

You have to get your fiance on the same page with you on this or you will be, probably forever, fighting an uphill battle. You going off on her likely won't do anything but validate, in her mind, the reasons she's against you marrying your fiance. You don't say anything about why your MIL to be is completely against your impending marriage. If it's a simple case of her having a hard time with the fact that you will be the first woman in his life from now on, you might try to extend an olive branch and spend more time with her along with your fiance. If it's something else and/or if you just don't feel compelled to try to have, or improve, the relationship with her, you'll need to get your fiance to acknowledge his mother's attempts to sabotage your relationship and he will need to tell her to stop. Any man who is not willing to stand up to his mother on behalf of his wife had better prepare himself for a lifetime of awkward holidays and strained family ties. Not fun.