Dating as a single parent is very different from dating as a teenager. Once you’ve decided to date again, it is important to reenter the dating scene slowly and carefully. You need to remember that rejection is part of the process, but that sharing an evening with another mature, interesting adult can greatly enhance your life.
Take Care of Yourself
In order to begin to date again, you first have to restore your self esteem so that you can be that confident, likable, sexy person that others would want to date. That might mean anything from seeking psychological support to getting a complete makeover, buying some new clothes, or dieting or exercising more. The happier you are with yourself, the more pleasure will be reflected back to you.
Leave the Past Where It Belongs
Whatever the situation was that put you in the place you find yourself in, dating as a single parent requires that you leave the past behind. Nothing will turn a new dating partner off faster than talking about your ex or the horrors of your marriage or divorce. Talking about your child or children is fine, as long as it’s brief, current and your date is interested.
Take It Slow
For your own sake, the sake of your date and the sake of your child or children, take it slow. Use your head when making decisions and don’t introduce a new person to your child or children until you truly believe the relationship has serious, long-term potential. Doing otherwise has the potential of creating insecurity, confusion, anger and resentment for all.
Online dating can be a wonderful resource for single parents. Be honest about yourself and make sure the photos you post are current. Limit the amount of time you spend looking at profiles. Begin a relationship with emails and phone calls. Be careful about the personal information you reveal until you are certain the person is trustworthy. When you do finally meet, be sure to meet in a public place.