When new love blossoms, it seems like the euphoria will never end. All too often, however, the feelings are fleeting and–just as suddenly as you found yourself in love–you notice that you have fallen back out. It can be difficult to distinguish a relationship ending. To ensure that you don’t end a good relationship in your haste, carefully consider whether you really have fallen out of love or if, instead, you are simply going through a bumpy period in an otherwise meaningful relationship.
Listen to the voice in your head. Your woman’s intuition can tell you a great deal. Instead of trying to silence the voice in your head that keeps presenting concerns about your relationship, listen to this voice of reason and consider the potential problems with your relationship. Trying to push your problems under the rug won’t make them go away. Face them head-on instead of lying to yourself about your emotions.
Consider the degree to which you want to spend time with him. Most women begin their relationship wanting to be with their new partner 24-7. It is natural for this desire for togetherness to wane slightly as you begin to get more comfortable in your relationship; however, if the longing for time with your man goes away completely and being with him begins to feel like a chore, it likely means you are no longer in love with him.
Compare your hobbies. While some successful couples share no interests, most have common hobbies that keep their love alive. As you decide whether the spark of your love has extinguished, think about what you two share in common. If you can’t think of anything, the relationship likely wasn’t ideal for you.
Determine how he makes you feel. When you next meet up with your special someone, think about the emotions you experience. Consider whether you still feel that spark when you lay eyes on him or if instead you dread the meeting as it may lead to yet another argument. This critical exploration of your feelings may help you determine what you really want.
Create a list of things you like and don’t like about the relationship. Divide a sheet of paper into two columns. Fill them with things you like and don’t like about your current love life. If your “don’t like” column is moving on to page 2, while you only have six entries in your “like” column, you may want to consider moving on.
Imagine yourself ending the relationship, and consider how you would feel if that were to occur. Close your eyes and daydream about the end of your relationship. Picture yourself breaking up with your beau and him receiving the news. As you imagine this, think about the emotions that you feel. If you are sad to see the end, try sticking with it longer. Maybe you are just going through a slump. If, instead, the end brings tears of joy, it is time to move on to greener pastures.
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