Whoever first said that absence makes the heart grow fonder never contended with the weekend airport rush. Here are some ways to hold on to your long-distance lover – and your sanity.
Keep in touch daily. If large phone bills are a concern, send e-mail, letters, cards, skype, text and even faxes.
Plan reunions to keep both of you pleased about the relationship. If your partner needs closeness, set up plans to meet often. Having a date to look forward to can help you through the rough times.
Reaffirm your love and commitment to one another. Try not to assume that the relationship is thriving. Listen to your partner’s concerns and communicate your own before they become bigger problems.
Keep your partner informed about your life. You may live separately, but sharing information about your activities and friends is still important.
Trust in one another. Suspicion will only break the relationship down.
Keep the relationship a high priority. Avoid canceling reunions or putting off a phone call.
Focus on the future. Make plans to live in the same city eventually.
Tips and Warnings
Plan a reunion in a city other than the ones you live in. Having a weekend getaway or vacation together can help recharge the relationship and reinforce your commitment.
Find ways to reduce the costs of travel and phone calls so you can meet and talk more often.
Surprise your loved one with an unexpected visit or a bouquet of flowers to keep the passion alive.
Be patient – it may take time for long-term plans to work out.
Consider other creative means of expressing your devotion: Scrawl confessions on a mirror, fan or piece of cloth. Fire off a quick succession of postcards.