Christina Milian has been through a lot over the past few years. After marrying The Dream in September 2009, the couple announced their separation 10 months later amid rumors of infidelity.

Christina explains how looking back, her gut was telling her that something was off, but she thought she could fix it. “I tried to be someone I wasn’t because I wanted my marriage to work. But ultimately, if it’s not working, it’s not working,” the singer/actress, 29, says in the February issue of Latina.

Despite these struggles, Christina has been through an all-new high with the birth of her daughter Violet Madison. She said that motherhood makes her feel “so much sexier than before” and “very confident and blessed.”

Keep your head up and may the joy of motherhood help you through this rough time.