The following is a list of things you can do to make your children’s lives easier after a divorce. Read these tips as reminders of what you and your co-parent should be doing to ease the stress of divorce on your children. Remember that the reason why you should do these things is that if you don’t your children will join the ranks of those who become emotionally hurt by the process of divorce.
The death of Osama bin Laden, and the constant reports about it can create parenting dilemmas and lots of mixed feelings. It is common for adults to feel relief, satisfaction and closure over the event, but it is easy to see how parents can get caught in a conundrum.
In the debate over whether we are more the products of our genetic makeup or the environment around us, the best conclusion science has to offer is that we are certainly strongly influenced by both.
“Be consistent” is popular parenting advice from many parenting experts. While it is important to be consistent (in other words, do not let your child eat sugary snacks one day and punish her for the same behavior the next day), it is much more important to be repetitive. In my opinion, repetition is one of the most important, if not the most important parenting techniques you can use to help your children develop positive behavioral habits.
When I was training for my Ph.D. in psychology, I was taught the importance of being able to quantify or count what I observe. Now, thirty years later, I am going to step outside of that model and advise that one of the most important things to be aware of from the moment your children are born until you scoot them out the door, is the type of energy that goes back and forth between you and your kids — something we cant see or measure, but we all know it’s there. Understanding it can make you a better parent.
While we hear a lot about bullies and bullying, most of what is said discusses the problem. Bullying is everywhere, and it is ruining the lives of many kids. OK, bullying is a problem. What are the solutions? On the largest scale, the solution is to change a culture that glorifies getting ahead through violence and aggression, selfishness, and outrageous exhibitionistic behavior. The best way to start these changes is in your own home with your kids. Teaching children empathy, compassion and civility is an important part of parenting overlooked in most parenting books (even the ones Ive written!) and is rarely, if ever, taught in schools. Ive written this primer to help parents focus on what they can do to promote the behaviors that stimulate positively social behavior (also called pro-social) behavior in kids.