Autism and a New Mother's Day

Autism and a New Mother’s Day

It’s new because it’s different than it used to be, but that’s okay. Change is a part of life, and my son is growing up, and it’s all about change at his age!

What’s changing?

When your child gets to be fifteen, things begin to change.

There are frustrating, struggling moments, but there are sweet moments, too.

Here’s a sweet moment…

My son wanted to purchase a game he had on his computer before we had to get it wiped. The game was then lost.

He recently asked me if it was okay to purchase the game again, too many years had passed so we couldn’t just download it again, we had to purchase again.

It wasn’t a huge expense, but not really one I wanted to do.

I thought about it for a day or so, and then said okay.

He downloaded it and began to play it.

Later that night, I explained to him why I decided to get him the game again.

My son had done a really great job of transitioning to being more self-sufficient on school mornings. I had used to do everything for him, but when he became a teenager, he became much harder to get up in the mornings. It was causing friction between us.

So, I decided to stop helping him in the morning and told him that it was now his responsibility to get himself up on a school morning and to school on time.

He had been successful for two weeks, without one tardy.

I told him I decided to get him the game again because I not only like that particular game, but I wanted to give him a little reward for doing such a great job with the school morning transition.

He said, “Thank you.” Then, he paused and said, “I’d like to give you a hug right now.”

And, he did.

What a sweet moment. I loved it.

Okay, did the hug come because he had just gotten what he wanted?

Perhaps.

Or, maybe he sincerely wanted to give me a hug.

I said to him, “Was that my Mother’s Day hug (this was the Friday before Mother’s Day)?”

He said, “No, you’ll get one on that day, too. I just wanted to this time, that’s all.”

And, I did get another one on Mother’s Day.

Okay, it may be a stretch, but Mother’s Days are changing. And, that’s okay. Something special can happen or not.

Mother’s Day can be a special day, or just another day. Autism and a New Mother’s Day.

I’m just glad to keep having them.