A friend sent me a beautiful poem today, about the value of girlfriends. I was really touched and then saddened as I thought about how long it’s been since I spent time with her. Most of the women in my life fully understand that I juggle multiple jobs and 4 kids and my relationship, which leaves very little time for socializing. Still, I miss those moments and I will never devalue the importance of friendship in my life. As much as I want their understanding for my often too hectic schedule, I also need to understand their needs and not lose sight of the meaning of time spent together.
There is so much value in being part of a community; the access we have to thousands of women around the globe, the recourses we share, the comfort we give just knowing that we aren’t the only ones going through a challenging time. But still, there is nothing like a real, true, and trustworthy friend.
I think that play dates are not just for kids. We certainly know how important those are in their young lives, and we schedule accordingly. Why don’t we make time for our own? My excuse is just that, TIME! So this week I have scheduled my own play date and will meet a great girlfriend for a workout and a lunch. Yes, I’ll be killing two birds with one stone, but we both need to squeeze in our exercise and we will wring out the rest of the day sharing some much needed girl time.
I think every woman needs another woman to count on. One you can run to when you feel lost, one that picks up the phone at 2:00 am, one that says you and your FOUR kids can move in if need be, one that tells you yes your ass looks fat in those jeans, one that tells you the truth even though you want her to lie, and one that helps you when you don’t have the heart to ask. I’ve always been best friends with my man, but let’s be brutally honest, a man can never share the unspoken language that only a girlfriend can. I must admit that David comes pretty close, we cook together, he really understands women, he loves fashion, he’s as passionate about raising our kids as I am, BUT I am not dishing about cellulite over lunch with him nor I am fessing up about the libido waves.
I know how hard “me time” is for most of us moms. But time for friends is essential. If you can’t make time for yourself do it for a girlfriend.
“Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art…. It has no survival value; rather it is one of those things that give value to survival.”