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Why My Family Skipped The Grammys This Year

February 29, 2012 by Julie Cole Leave a Comment

Several weeks ago, I was driving with my daughters in the van and ahead of us was a vehicle that said “Halton Women’s Place.” My 10-year-old daughter asked what that was. For a brief moment I was tempted to say it’s a nice place that women go to get their nails done, have a glass of champagne and spend time with their friends.

But, being a kiddo truth teller (and not a kiddo question dodger), I did my best job of explaining that it is a place women escape to, often with their children, to get away from an abusive situation.

My daughter was shocked – a stream of comments and questions including “Dads really do that to the moms in the family?” and “So the moms have to take their kids and hide from the dads?”

Yep, would have been an easier conversation if I stuck with the spa story.

Fast forward two weeks – a local mama is murdered in her home by her ex-husband (and the father of her three young children). My 10-year-old notes that maybe she should have gone to that place where moms hide from dads.

Fast forward another couple of weeks, when she asks why our family didn’t watch the Grammy Awards and I explain that it was because a man who has been abusive towards women was performing. I go on to give the history. Again, she learns that organizations like Halton Women’s Place don’t exist without reason.

When I asked a friend in education what the reaction of her kids at school has been to Chris Brown, she said “The grade 6, 7, and 8 students seem to have no problem with what Brown did. The media really didn’t cover the seriousness of the incident, and the record companies and music blogs are constantly tweeting about his new music and videos to create excitement.”  She added that there is a perception of romance now that the abuser and abused are working together in music – like some sort of “true love prevails” nonsense.

Are parents having conversations about violence with their kids? Are we leaving it all to the media?

I’ve heard people respond to the Grammy fiasco, saying that what happens between an abuser and the abused is no one’s business.

How is violence against women NOT our business? How many more times am I going to hear my daughter say: “I guess we still need Halton Women’s Place?”

Julie Cole is the co-founding VP of Mabel’s Labels, the leading provider of labels for the stuff kids lose!
Like her on Facebook – Mabel’s Labels or follow on Twitter @juliecole and  @mabelhood

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About Julie Cole

Julie is the mother of six and a co-founding VP of Mabels Labels, the leading provider of labels for the stuff kids lose!®. After her son was diagnosed with autism, she shelved a legal career to monitor his therapy and launch a business that would strike a better work/life balance. Mabels Labels has grown from a basement start-up into an award winning international phenomenon. It has been featured everywhere from The View to Forbes.com and is widely recognized for its business and product excellence. As company spokeswoman, Julie is a well-known personality amongst mom entrepreneurs and her dynamic personality has led to numerous speaking engagements, from morning TV to university business classes. With humor and candor, Julies writing focuses on her experiences raising a big, happy family while running a successful business, and has appeared in Chicken Soup For the Soul - Power Moms and numerous websites. Follow her on Twitter @JulieCole Julie Cole
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