My Son Plays With TuTus
My son is living in a girl’s house and I didn’t realize how girly we were until my boy mommy friends came over! I have to admit that our playroom is filled with baby dolls, dress up clothes, artistic jewelry projects and an extensive PINK kitchen. But I did buy the wooden table to set up the car tracks for Shaya to play with. It’s not his fault that his sister’s have made it a tea party buffet!
Seriously, I don’t think that rules and preventions should be made regarding gender appropriate toys. I was beginning to wonder why Shaya was obsessed with nail polish, cooking, and mini-baby strollers, but how could he not be when he is surrounded by 3 sisters doing just that? My girlfriend finally had a little girl, number three in a house full of boys. One afternoon in our playroom, my friend was watching Shaya play with his sister’s tutus, she mentioned that I should tell him those are for girls and give him something else to play with. I watched her daughter sit in circle of trucks and cars, expressing no interested in ballet dress up. That’s when it dawned on me that she was playing with what she is used to seeing in her home of big brothers. Shaya is simply copying his older sisters and enjoying what is familiar to him. I understood what it’s like for him to live in a girl’s world as I watched his girlfriend gravitate to what she knows from her boy’s world.
Who’s to say that boys shouldn’t play with girl’s toy? What does that even mean? I personally believe that the most important think is age appropriate play, not gender based. Your best bet is to find smart, fun, developmental activities. I will never deprive my son from playing with his sister’s toys. He will develop his own personality just as they have, even though all kids try to be like each other. I feel that my responsibility as a parent is to expose my kids to as much as possible and watch them grow. I will definitely add some Batman and firemen costumes to the dress up box. I will try to find the right words when Rain asks why some boys wear nail polish.
Aren’t there so many more important things to worry about?!?
