Married people, both men and women, often find themselves having feelings for someone other than their spouse. The last thing you want to be is that other person. In order to prevent messy, dramatic situations, it is important to identify feelings early on that may lead to inappropriate behavior. By paying attention to his body language, words, and actions, you can have insight into whether or not action needs to be taken to prevent things from going too far.
Read His Body Language
Even if a man is trying to hide his feelings, his body language can give it away. A man who is interested in a woman will point his body, especially his shoulders, pelvis, legs, and feet in her direction. A man who makes frequent eye contact, and often lets his glance linger longer that the average person may have feelings for you. If he looks away when you catch him looking at you, it may be an attempt to hide his attraction. A man who is constantly smiling at you for no reason may also have feelings for you.
Listen To His Words
A man who is interested in you will constantly find reasons to compliment you, whether it be about your looks, your possessions, or your achievements.
Asking questions which may seem pointless are a way to keep you engaged in conversation, and can also be an attempt to find similar interests to discuss.
A married man who has extramarital feelings or is looking for an affair will often complain about his wife. He will often make himself out to be the victim of an unloving, inattentive, or unfaithful spouse in order to gain sympathy from someone of the opposite sex.
Interpret His Actions
A man who is constantly finding reasons to talk to you or spend time with you more than likely has feelings for you. If he is generally the one who initiates conversations, or is changing plans to spend more time with you, it is probably an indication that he is interested in you.
If he is constantly trying to impress you, or acting like the “Alpha Male” around you, he probably has feelings for you.
Be Straightforward With Him
If you are certain a married man has feelings for you, it is important to be straightforward with him. Though the flirting and compliments may be flattering, you should never lead him on. You need to make it clear to him that you are not looking for a relationship that cannot go anywhere, and that you are not interested in breaking up his family. Though this confrontation may be awkward or embarrassing, your feelings need to be made obvious.