Many dads to-be often end up feeling a bit left out of the sharing the spotlight with their significant other once the pregnancy has been announced.
So youre pregnant and so are YOU. What does that mean? Okay, well thats your physical condition. But, we all know that the changes in pregnancy arent just physical. The whole you is changing – not just your body but your mind, spirit and relationships, too.
Did you know that men can also get postpartum depression? It’s true. In fact, it actually has a name called Paternal Postnatal Depression (PPND).
Individuals and couples challenged with the major life crisis of infertility often feel a range of strong and complicated emotions as they navigate the complicated medical procedures and terminology of making a family.
Contrary to the popular belief that pregnancy is a biologically protective and emotionally joyful time, women are actually quite vulnerable to a spectrum of psychiatric disorders throughout the perinatal period – the time around pregnancy and postpartum. This range of disorders, more commonly referred to under the umbrella term of postpartum depression, is more accurately reflected by the terms postpartum or perinatal mood and anxiety disorders (PMADs). In fact, 1 in 7 women who become pregnant will experience a mental health disorder during the course of their pregnancy or in the postpartum period, making PMADs the most common complication of childbirth. Additionally, 50% of women diagnosed with PMADs postpartum had an onset of their symptoms during pregnancy.
Conflicts with Close Friends So, lets talk about those close personal friendships – kids will experience more conflicts with close friends than acquaintances. When our friend says something or does something to hurt our feelings it means a lot more than if a stranger did the same thing. Im sure we can relate to that. But, your childs ability to resolve conflicts will mature as they grow older and these challenges are part of that maturation.
How much do your friends mean to you? What would your life be like if you had no friends? Friends to rely on in times of crisis, and friends to share all your joys? I imagine life would be pretty dull and lonely…Friends are important…
Your children will become what you are; so be what you want them to be. Robert Bly
George Bernard Shaw said, We live in an atmosphere of shame. We are ashamed of everything that is real about us; ashamed of ourselves, of our relatives, of our incomes, of our accents, of our opinion, of our experience, just as we are ashamed of our naked skins.
The concept of shame can often be misunderstood and confused with guilt. The cliff note definition is we feel guilty for what we do and we feel shame for what we are. There are basically two types of shame; healthy shame and toxic shame. Healthy shame lets us know when our actions have gone too far (such as alerting us that we are not the center of the universe). It is the foundation of our conscience. Toxic shame is feeling we are defective and unworthy (for example, You can never do anything right! Why cant you be more like your brother?!) This type of shame has been given to you by another. Meaning, we generally shame others as we ourselves have been shamed – this is called “generational shaming” and it needs to stop.