I lost a friend to breast cancer this week. Sandee was a hardworking, kind, funny, sweet, bright light of a person who fought her cancer with everything she had. She refused to let it take over her life, saying with joy "See! I told you I'd make it longer than a week!" when given a diagnosis time frame from her doctor. She and I had a conversation about her heath one day, … [Read more...] about Breast Cancer Steals Many Things, But Not Love
Whew. This is a hard one to write. I’m a Black mom, and it feels like last week was the culmination of what my ancestors and colleagues have been pursuing for over 200 years: the right to be heard. The right to be seen as equal. The right to social justice. White privilege in motherhood looks like being three times more likely to survive childbirth, not worrying your … [Read more...] about This month, I can feel the shift.
Dear husband, I love your black skin. I love your drive, your heart and your passion. But oh how I love the color of your skin. My love is not color blind. I love your color. I respect you. I stand beside you. I hold your black hand in mine and I’m committed to you. Long before I fell in love with you my blood boiled at any racist comments. “You can’t say that in front of … [Read more...] about Amidst Racism, A Beautiful Letter To A Husband From His Wife
I’m in a weird life phase right now. Half of my friends are married and have kids (I will furthermore refer to my “friends with kids” as FWKs), while half are still swiping right and probably years away from nuptials (this group will now be called “NKY” friends – No Kids Yet.) Past that, my husband and I bought our first home last year and officially live in suburbia. We have … [Read more...] about I Don’t Have Kids Yet, But Please Still Invite Me
13 years ago, we were sitting outside of a Starbucks in Tampa, Florida with more questions than answer flooding our brains. Without any expectations or knowledge of what was going to happen, we both realized that it was time to end our marriage and clean up the mess we made. We amicably agreed to leave the past behind and move forward, but the only problem was neither of had a … [Read more...] about Quarantining With A Former Spouse