The past year Ive been working with a group of creative business developers out of NYC, creating a website designed to support family caregivers in an entirely new sort of way. Were now close to launch, and I want to invite Modern Moms to join us as we explore exciting new ways to support each other.
At times of personal crisis the world seems to shrink until all you can see is your own pain and despair.Thats where Liz Gilbert was when she decided to spend a year exploring the world at least exploring Italy, India and Bali. Her story played beautifully by Julie Roberts in the newly released movie feels at times narcissistic and shallow.But her pain is all too evident as she works to forgive herself and find her way to emotional and spiritual balance.
If youre lucky, youve got a mom who is also a friend, or at least someone you can talk to.So do it talk to her. Talk about that time hopefully a long way in the future when the phone rings and its the hospital saying, Somethings happened to your mom.It is, in fact, just a matter of a phone call that can change our lives and our relationship with our moms. A diagnosis, an accident is can happen in an instant.
The TODAY show had a segment this morning on the popularity of letting your hair go gray naturally. Which really means stepping off the color treadmill and letting nature take over.
I kept a photo on the refrigerator door for a long, long time. The picture was of my eldest daughter and I at a picnic, taken at a moment neither of us was posing or prepared. We both had on sunglasses and were laughing together at something. Heres what I loved about that picture: you had to do a serious double take to tell which was me and which was my daughter. We looked so very much alike. Of course, I loved that!I didnt feel the same joy when I looked at my mom and wondered if people could still tell us apart.
Our daughter the third and youngest has finally made her college selection for next fall.
This weekend we celebrated the baptism of our newest little god-daughter, Kate Rilee. She wore the dress that my youngest daughter wore at her own baptism, 18 years ago to the day. It was the dress that Kates mother, our dear family nanny, wore at her baptism, about 18 years before that.Standing there looking at my 18 year old daughter holding baby Kate I realized how quickly those years have flown by. The next threshold well be crossing will be college dorm day, coming in just a few short months.
This morning on the Today show the representative for the family of actor Corey Haim, recently deceased from a drug overdose, said something like this, We want to correct a miscommunication about Coreys mother. She was living with him, not the other way around.I thought to myself, yet another case of someone who doesnt want to be perceived as God forbid living with mother as an adult.
As moms, were on very familiar terms with guilt. It keeps us company in the middle of the night, when we let the baby fuss just a little longer so we can stay in our own beds a minute more.It loves riding in the car with us as we take our young ones to the doctor where well hear one of two things: Why did you wait so long to bring her in? or You dont need to bring her in for every little thing kids get bugs all the time.
Dont you just love it when you hear those words, Youre not the boss of me! While we usually think of them in relation to our toddlers or teens, Ive heard them lately from two sources: a middle aged person (to his spouse) and an elder (to their child). Happens to be true, you know. Think about our children, from birth, through the toddler years, to pre-teen and teen. When can we possibly think were the boss of them?