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Oh Goody, I Get Them Forever!

Why full custody isn’t always a full win… There’s rarely a significant upside to divorce in a situation such as mine. Sure, there were years of ups and downs, the occasional door slamming and name-calling fights, and questions answered from the other in silence. But there were plenty of good times too, even in very recent memory, before he suddenly flew the coop. As the co-creators of two very challenging young boys, I did see a faint light at the end of the divorce tunnel: shared custody. While I’d not asked for nor been consulted on our divorce, I did have a sudden vision of two free weekends a month, school breaks where I could actually take a vacation that didn’t involve wiping an offspring’s backside, alternating holidays I don’t care for anyway – like Thanksgiving and New Year’s Eve.

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Goodbye Is Not Forever—Adjusting to Issues of Separation

One of the most difficult things for family members and children new to child care and/or a new school is adjusting to the initial separation period. Experiencing tears from your child when he or she realizes youre about to walk out the door is not easy. However, knowing that your childs reactions (and your own!) are quite normal and predictable can help with the process.