When I was a girl, my parents taught me to play tennis, to ski, to ride a bike and drive a car. What they never taught me: how to have a healthy romantic relationship. They gave other feedback freely – validation of my love of reading and black raspberry ice cream, and fair punishment when […]
Most moms of small children feel as asexual as a paramecium. Strangely, this does not prevent their husbands from wanting sex. As a couples therapist, I want your marital sex life to grow as wild and uncontrollable as the mint plants that are now taking over my entire yard. Also I want it to be equally leafy and fragrant. […]
Good sex is extremely important for all couples. Though your libido may ebb and flow over the years, you should aim to make sex a priority, because the physical intimacy can make you feel mentally and emotionally closer as well. Most people have to work at having a good sexual relationship, so don’t feel badly if your sex life isn’t exactly what you want.
When single, you likely engaged in flirting as a way to introduce yourself to men and entice them to take a romantic interest in you. Based upon this logic, it would seem that, upon marrying, your flirting would stop. While for some, a ring on the finger does prevent them from engaging in playful flirtation, for many women, flirting while married is commonplace. Even though flirting while married may seem odd–or perhaps even wrong–a number of biological and emotional reasons explain why some married women fail to give up the flirt.
You wake up at 5am to a baby crying, but your husband rolls over and continues snoring. With a freshly diapered baby on one hip and a cup of tea in the other hand, you start breakfast, wake up the other kids, get everyone ready for school, get yourself ready for work, and all before six thirty. Your husband strolls into the kitchen looking fresh around seven, gives you a peck on the cheek, and heads off for work. You drop the kids off at school and daycare and spend the next eight hours getting nagged for something a co-worker did. You pick up the kids and head home
All couples will eventually get into a rut with their sex lives. It may be because of changing situations – like a new baby or a promotion that requires more hours spent at work – or you could just be bored. Whether you like it or not, sex is an important part of your relationship, and you need to work on ways that you can make it better. Talk to your partner about the different ways you can spice up your sex life and check out a few fun and sexy ideas below: