Moms ask me all the time, “How do I get the heat back in my life? How do I start feeling good again?” It’s not so easy to feel foxy when you think you look as sexy as a zombie with under-eye bags and your jeans have a broccoli-puree river running down them. But I’ve got news for you. Feeling sexy is mostly a state of mind. It’s all about how you feel about yourself, and communicating that to the people you meet everyday, whether that be the other mommies and daddies at drop off, or that handsome co-worker down the hall.
Here are a seven quick tips to help all you mommies turn the heat back up, and start feeling good about yourself again.
1) I know you are a mom. I know you may have kids who are constantly flicking things at you and running their gooey hands through your hair. I know you may be walking around disheveled and sweaty because little Johnny has a new pair of legs and you have been in chase mode. Even though all of this may be going on, you need to take one night a week to dress up in your sexiest outfit and go out on the town, either with your friends or your partner. That’s going to remind you that aside from being a mommy you are still a beautiful, sexy woman.
2) Wake up 15 minutes earlier each morning and devote that time to making yourself feel more desirable, alive and engaging. Whether you spend your mini-retreat time doing yoga, polishing your nails, putting on a face masque, arranging your hair in a new way, or sitting on the patio reading something that feeds your brain, think of it as your morning time to get your groove back.
3) Take another Just-For-Me break later in the day. Do this either when the kids are in school or you have some down time at work. Just carve out another 10 minutes of personal time. Set the timer on oven if you need a reminder. But force yourself to take that break! What to do with these precious minutes? Take a quick bubble bath or go for a stroll on a tree-lined street. Whatever it is, take a few of these Me-Time moments every day. It will do wonders for your attitude and your energy.
4) Even though kids are constantly around you, start wearing clothes that make you feel sexy. Don’t just save your favorite pair of jeans for your night out. Wear them — even for running errands. Wearing things that make you feel sexy – even when the kids are around — will remind you of the sexy woman you are. French women do it. Why not you?
5) No matter how tiring it is to run a family, keep an eye on your posture. Walk straight with your shoulders back. Start strutting again — even though you’re in the aisles of Wal-Mart buying 72 rolls of Charmin. It’s a powerful thing to feel good about yourself every day. Little things like posture will really help.
6) Create your own piggy bank. Every day throw the spare change that you get into “Mommy’s Piggy Bank.” Don’t spend the change throughout the course of the day. If something costs $2.31, don’t reach into your purse for two one-dollar bills and 31 cents in change. Give the clerk $3.00 and, at the end of the day, put the change into “Mommy’s Piggy Bank.” Then when the month comes to a close, take all that change and buy yourself something something special. Get a massage. Pick up some luxurious body butter. Some months there will be more, and some there will be less. The important thing is that “Mommy’s Piggy Bank” will allow Mommy to spoil herself once a month with an extra treat.
7) Get excited about date night with your guy. Maybe it can only happen once a month, but planning time out with your loved one should be something you savor. What special thing will you do together that night? What will you wear? What special memories will you talk about? What trips will you plan together? How will you wear your hair? Think of all the ways you can dazzle your husband or boyfriend, and open the door to let him dazzle you too! After all, daddies need to feel hot, too.
Dating coach, blogger and author David Wygant has been featured on more than 2,000 radio and television shows, including Dateline, CBS Good Morning, and MTV. Get more sex and dating tips on David’s interactive blog at davidwygant.com