Sex got you where you are today. If it weren’t for sex, you wouldn’t be pregnant. Many expectant parents wonder how pregnancy will affect their sex lives. Physical and emotional changes during this time can disrupt your usual activities, including your sexuality and your level of intimacy. Understanding what changes to expect during pregnancy and discussing your feelings with one another will encourage open communication and intimacy. Focusing on your impending parenthood need not deter from your sex life.
Changes in Desire
Your pregnancy may cause you to feel tired and worn out, especially in the first few months. Stress brought on by morning sickness, fatigue and emotional adjustments can detract from your sex life. According to the March of Dimes, the middle trimester can boost interest in sexual activities. An increase in your blood volume can amplify your sexual desire and your ability to have orgasms. The anticipation of childbirth and parenting concerns can make you lose some interest in sex during your final trimester of pregnancy.
You may notice an increase in the size of your breasts during the first trimester. Although this may make you feel sexy and voluptuous, the accompanying tenderness may detract from your sexual enjoyment. Although your abdomen expands during the second trimester, the decrease in nausea, breast tenderness and fatigue may make sex more enjoyable at this time. The increasing size of your belly and various aches and pains might make sex in the final trimester a little uncomfortable.
Although you and your partner may worry that intercourse can harm your baby, there is no evidence to support this concern. The Mayo Clinic advises couples to have sex as often as they like, as long as the pregnancy proceeds normally. The amniotic sac and mucous plug that blocks the cervix protect your baby throughout your pregnancy.
You may find that your favorite positions for lovemaking become uncomfortable as your pregnancy progresses. Experiment with various positions to find ones that work for you and your partner. Try positions that allow you to be on top. Positions that allow you to rest on your hands and knees, as well as spooning positions, may provide the most comfort during the later stage of your pregnancy.
Don’t allow tiredness, nausea, aching joints and other discomforts to drive a wedge between you and your partner. Finding other ways to express your love for one another can replace sexual activities. Consider ways to focus on one another, such as massages, intimate dinners and conversations.
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