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When Things Don’t Go Your Way, Kick Into Mommy Mode

October 28, 2010 by PLAYTHISWAY Leave a Comment

This was one of those weeks. Tears, anger, OK-you-need-to-get-it-together…then problem solving! Our cute, spunky, smart, assertive, loving, four-year-old boy was diagnosed with a fortunately curable, but very serious, form of Lyme Disease. A tick bite led to an infection that invaded his little body – maybe when he played soccer or when we went on a family hike. We’ll never know – because there was no tick found, no rash, no rhyme or reason why he has had to suffer like this. He’s doing much better after quite a scary week in the hospital and will go home to three weeks of IV antibiotics – and he will be absolutely fine.

My Son Needs Me

He needs his mommy – full time – right now. But what do I do? Go through every single thing on my calendar and dare to CANCEL it all? My regular pediatrics job, things for our business, and everything else? YES. No one needs me more than he does.

What’s a Busy Mom to Do?

So how do moms who have responsibilities outside the home function and problem solve during those crisis filled times? I always tell child care providers that if they are sick or ask for a certain day off, my first reaction will be a mild fit of hysterics. For probably four seconds, I may twitch, scream, and feel the tears well up in my eyes, and then the transition to “problem solve mode” takes hold.

Formulate the Plan

I just need to figure it out. Must come up with THE PLAN. My plan often includes my man; my mother did not have that luxury. She raised three children as a single, hard-working, problem-solving queen. My first thought is often, “If my mom could figure it out, I certainly can figure it out”. For all of us, it comes down to: How can our children be happy and safe and cared for by someone they know and trust, while at the same time, make sure our necessary work-outside-the-home is being completed well, thoroughly and efficiently? Sometimes life has to just be day to day, putting out the fires to get back to a good place for everyone. I do not always know what the plan is going to be or what it will morph into. Sometimes, the plan does not even feel like a plan (at least the kind moms on TV always come up with to save the day).

That’s What Being a Mommy is All About

Somehow (so far), there has always been a plan that gets us over the hump, even if that plan is not always convenient for everyone involved. Even when we feel like a herd of rhinoceroses are about to hit, that’s what being a mommy is all about. Kids come first, and somehow, someway, we have to figure out how to do it!

 

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About PLAYTHISWAY

Dr. Jen Canter, aka Dr. Jen® is a double board certified pediatrician, professor, researcher, published author, and, last but not least, mom to two sets of twins. In all her spare time, shes an entrepreneur! In 2008 she invented the U-Play Mat®, now licensed by Sassy Baby® for the mass-market baby toy category, and started a fun & cool adventure. Dr. Jen believes play can permeate every aspect of parenthood, from exercising and eating well to using love and laughter to raise happy, well-adjusted little people who can tackle anything life hands to them with creativity & self-assurance. Dr. Jen chronicles her journey as a professional and a mom, while at the same time sharing her hard-earned wisdom with warmth, wit and a healthy dose of humor. Because she understands the darker side of parenthood as one of a handful of Child Abuse Pediatricians nationwide, Dr. Jen is committed to leading a life filled with light & balance. Have a playdate with Dr. Jen by going to her website: www.playthisway.com Dr. Jen
Pediatrician, Mom of Two Sets of Twins
Inventor of the U-Play Mat
Website: www.playthisway.com
Twitter: @PLAYTHISWAY

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