Parenting is a healing profession. This thought floated through my mind this morning and gave me pause to think. How can parenting be a healing profession? When I think of healing professions, I think of doctors, acupuncturists, or nurses. I also think of of spiritual healers and massage therapists. Now I realize that parenting is a different type of healing profession. Who is being healed?
Recently I have noticed that my son has been spending more time by himself. At 8 years old, he is developing a greater sense of his independence, and a greater sense of connection with his friends at school. My son loves to listen to books on CD in his room, he calls it me time. I have noticed that it is not always easy for me to accept this as okay. Sometimes it is hard to leave space within a relationship for growth. What may be a natural distance can feel uncomfortable or goes against expectations about what a relationship should look like.
Parenting is a process, not an event. Part of the parenting process is decision making. When it is time to eat, there are decisions to be made. When it is time to go outside af-ter being inside for too long, there is a decision to be made. When it is time to plan a vacation, there are decisions to be made.
As a father, I feel connected to my community in a way that I never thought was possible. From the moment I let my parents know that my wife was pregnant, a new level of trust, respect, and connection was opened to me. This has been true with my in-laws, my colleagues, my friends, and people I just happen upon throughout the day. I suppose this makes sense, considering the level of trust that Spirit has bestowed upon me as a father.
Ive found nothing more challenging, nothing more rewarding, and nothing more enlightening than being a parent. Parenting has it all. As a father, Ive witnessed the miracle of birth, waking up in the middle of the night to walk around and soothe a screaming child, and received some the best Fathers Day cards ever. The one thing Ive learned, more than anything else, is that my child is an amazing mirror. His authentic, no holds barred voice in my life has brought me great struggle and great insight. My relationship with Elliot has all the qualities of a partnership that can expose me to unforeseen lows as well as push me to new heights.