My kids are noisy. I mean - noisy. Before full-scale isolation, I could at least get some ‘downtime’ when they went off with their friends, or to school, or work, or university, or to their dad’s place. But with isolation, the rules have changed, and we are all once again living on top of each other. It kind of made sense for my kids to be all over me when they were 4, 3, and … [Read more...] about It’s Time For Working Moms To Put Themselves First
Whew. This is a hard one to write. I’m a Black mom, and it feels like last week was the culmination of what my ancestors and colleagues have been pursuing for over 200 years: the right to be heard. The right to be seen as equal. The right to social justice. White privilege in motherhood looks like being three times more likely to survive childbirth, not worrying your … [Read more...] about This month, I can feel the shift.
The truth is, saying NO is hard for women. I know that I have a very hard saying it, and I will often push myself to the limit and not do stuff that is important to ME to take care of others. It’s just the way I was raised- and the way I was raising my daughter. However, it’s time for things to change. It took a worldwide pandemic for me to learn this lesson that it’s okay to … [Read more...] about Teaching Our Daughters And Ourselves It’s Okay To Say No
I started a new job in February. Correction: I started TWO new jobs in February. The first one was a foot in the door. It didn’t pay enough to cover my bills, so I took the second job to supplement. Anyone can tell you that two jobs are more than enough for a single human to handle. I also run Elle Jay at Home, a blog about comfort food for moms. But my hours shifted to 7 am … [Read more...] about The WFHWK Life: The Down and Dirty of Working Mom Survival
Great news! Nursing moms are getting a new tax break from the IRS for breast pumps and other supplies. The same proposal was rejected in 2010 because the IRS didn’t think breastfeeding had enough benefits to be considered medical care. But the American Academy of Pediatrics and other breastfeeding advocates fought for the proposal, citing the many long-lasting health … [Read more...] about Nursing Mothers Granted Tax Break