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What is Generational Shame and How Does it Affect Us?
George Bernard Shaw said, We live in an atmosphere of shame. We are ashamed of everything that is real about us; ashamed of ourselves, of our relatives, of our incomes, of our accents, of our opinion, of our experience, just as we are ashamed of our naked skins.
How Shame Affects You and Your Kids
The concept of shame can often be misunderstood and confused with guilt. The cliff note definition is we feel guilty for what we do and we feel shame for what we are. There are basically two types of shame; healthy shame and toxic shame. Healthy shame lets us know when our actions have gone too far (such as alerting us that we are not the center of the universe). It is the foundation of our conscience. Toxic shame is feeling we are defective and unworthy (for example, You can never do anything right! Why cant you be more like your brother?!) This type of shame has been given to you by another. Meaning, we generally shame others as we ourselves have been shamed – this is called “generational shaming” and it needs to stop.
GETTING TO THE ROOT OF WHAT IS UNDER THE ANGER
HOLDING ON TO ANGER IS LIKE A HOT COAL WITH THE INTENT OF THOWING IT AT SOMEONE ELSE: YOU ARE THE ONE GETTING BURNED BUDDHAAnger lets face it , isnt the most pleasant feeling to feel , its much more comfortable to exploded then to sit , feel , experience and explore whats really got your blood boiling.