While men often say that women are complicated, the same could be said about them. At times, it’s pretty difficult to understand why men feel a certain way, act a certain way and say different things. If you’re a woman that is constantly trying to figure out her man’s moods, you are not alone. Millions of women are in the same boat.
Realize that men and women speak a different language. Often times when a man sends out a signal, a woman interprets it in a way it wasn’t meant to be interpreted. When a man says, “Honey, maybe you should just quit working for a little while and stay home,” he might mean that he’s worried about you and wants to make sure you’re not stressed out…because he loves you. You may take it to mean that he thinks you’re unable to handle things and you should be at home where you belong. Make sure you’re interpreting his messages correctly to better understand his moods.
Pick up on his signals. Often times, men will act a certain way because of something else. For instance, Mary notices suddenly that her man is behaving like an overprotective oaf and she doesn’t understand. When she thinks about the situation really hard, she remembers that she had a small fender-bender last week and connects the two. His signal means that he realized how easily people are lost and that he loves Mary and doesn’t want her to get hurt. Consider your man’s signals and what they mean–as well as why he’s behaving a certain way.
Encourage him to have alone time. Men are complex in one way–but in another, they are extremely simple. Men are often overwhelmed with the stress and drama that women are built to handle. Sometimes, this leads to a man needing to be alone and to just unwind. If your man is acting this way, the worst thing you can do is smother him by trying to figure out what’s going on. Rather than doing that, allow him all the time he needs to breathe–an afternoon or a whole day. Soon, he’ll be back to his usual self.
Be patient. While it can be difficult to just wait while your man goes through different moods or phases that you don’t understand, sometimes it’s the only thing you can do. Try to be patient until your man comes around and lets you know what is going on with him. Chances are, if you’re patient enough–he’ll do exactly that.
Ask him. If something’s going on and you don’t know what–just ask your man. Most likely, he’ll let you in on what he’s feeling or thinking about. You might even be surprised to learn that it’s nothing more than a bad day at work or worry over finances.