Increasing sex drive involves multiple factors. Health, general well being, self esteem and the relationship can all impact a woman’s sex drive, as can age, pregnancy, breastfeeding and menopause. Keep in mind that variations in sex drive from woman to woman are normal, as are variations depending on your phase of life and even the day of the week.
Take care of your health. Before you consider other possible causes or ways to increase sex drive, make sure you are eating well, drinking plenty of water, exercising regularly and getting enough sleep. A full physical can rule out any potential health issues or allow you to address any medications or chronic conditions that might be lowering your sex drive.
Make time for yourself. This is a critical step in increasing sex drive in a woman whether she has young children, works long hours or is caring for aging parents. Go out with friends, visit a bookstore or schedule a day at the spa. Relaxation will naturally increase your desire and receptivity for sex.
Work on your relationship. Be sure that the two of you are communicating well, have shared interests and passions and are working toward mutual goals. Air any disagreements and resolve them quickly. If there are problems in the relationship making it harder to increase sex drive, consider seeking assistance from a marriage counselor or sex therapist.
Explore your body. Learn what feels good and what doesn’t. Visit a woman-friendly sex shop if there is one in your area and consider looking around at online options if there is not. If sex has seemed more of a chore than a joy, taking time to remember that it can be fun on your own may help you have more interest and sex drive with your partner.
Spend time focusing on sex. Pass naughty notes back and forth with your partner, share fantasies, or take a weekend away together. Consider scheduling sex into your calendar if time is at a premium. While this may seem to lack spontaneity, knowing it’s going to happen may allow you to look forward to it.
- If sex is painful, consult your physician.
- Some medications including hormonal contraceptives and antidepressants can lower or eliminate sex drive in a woman.