How to Increase Sexual Desire for Women

Step 1

Use your imagination. Before a sexual encounter, go to a quiet room and visualize something that arouses you. It can be a certain person, a movie, a scene in a book or a personal fantasy.

Step 2

Take time to make yourself feel sexually turned on. Instead of visualization or combined with visualization, try pleasuring yourself for a few minutes before getting together with your partner. Only you know exactly what turns you on, so take a few minutes to make yourself happy. If you don’t know what you like, experiment. Take mental note of what works and what doesn’t for your next quick turn-on session.

Step 3

Try something new. In her book “The Big Bang: Nerve’s Guide To The New Sexual Universe,” Emma Jane Taylor says that trying something your partner likes can be a turn-on because new things can be arousing.

Step 4

Forget yourself. If worrying about your big thighs or stretch marks make you feel less than sexy and sexually turned off, forget them by pretending you are someone else. Pick a sexy, self-confident model or actress and pretend you are her. You won’t be able stop feeling empowered and sexual.

Step 5

Get a theme song. Find a song that makes you feel sexy and play it to get you in the mood. You may even want to dance to it to get your endorphins flowing.

Step 6

Buy a cream. Sexual enhancement creams such as Dream Cream and Valentra are rubbed onto the female genitals. These creams are designed to heighten sensitivity and libido. These creams are not doctor prescribed and can be bought online for more discretion. Look for creams that have a money-back guarantee and are FDA approved.

Step 7

Try hormones. Testosterone is a popular remedy for women with low libido. Skin patches containing testosterone, such as Intrinsa, are prescribed by doctors in the United Kingdom. In the United States, women can ask their doctor for testosterone treatments that can be taken orally.