When you first started going out, you knew there was an attraction. As time went on, it started to become much more. Suddenly, you find yourself thinking about him during the day, getting excited when you see his name on caller ID and imagining what it would be like to spend the rest of your life with him. Are you in love?
Step 1
Enjoy his company. When you first started going out, you may have wanted to double date, attend concerts or see the latest movie, but lately you find that just spending time together, alone at home is as satisfying–if not more so–than going out used to be. Whether you are eating a home cooked meal together or he is asleep on your couch while you read a new book, just being around him makes you happy.
Step 2
Respect him as a person. When you love, you typically also respect that person. Talking about his talents, his goals, his latest invention to your friends can be an indicator that you love him, because he is obviously on your mind.
Step 3
Compare him to no one. You accept his faults and quirks as part of who he is; you don’t care what others may think. He treats you with respect and love. You enjoy him as a whole person, flaws and all.
Step 4
Care about his opinion. You find that when you want somebody’s opinion about something, he is generally the first person you turn to. When he gets upset about something you do, you typically want to understand his feelings and explore whether you could have done something differently so he would not be unhappy. You don’t change everything about yourself to make him happy, but when you make decisions you usually want to get his input.
Step 5
Trust each other. You find that you don’t need to spend every moment together to be secure in the relationship. You are comfortable pursuing individual interests while meeting up together later. You aren’t jealous or possessive because you know how you feel about him and how he feels about you. You are in it for the long haul.
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