How to Get a Man to Have Sex

Step 1

Get active outside the bedroom. Take walks after dinner, or play tennis on the weekend. Exercising together can help you feel closer to each other mentally, which can translate to physical closeness later. It can also help to reduce his body fat, which could be inhibiting testosterone production.

Step 2

Cook libido-enhancing meals. Some foods really do include vitamins that can boost your man’s sex drive. While oysters may be too obvious, garlic, eggs and liver all increase libido. Make a dessert of fresh fruits, such as bananas, mangoes and strawberries, which also support male sexual health. They can also be somewhat sensual to eat.

Step 3

Eliminate the major causes of stress. If your guy faces a great deal of stress at work and then comes home to even more stress, he may simply be too tired and stressed to want sex. Give him some time to unwind on his own or encourage him to talk about his frustrations. You can also try to entice him by starting with a massage and hoping that physical contact will lead to sex.

Step 4

Go on a mini-vacation. Sometimes, getting away from it all could be what he needs to spark his desire. You don’t have to spend a fortune, either. Go on a weekend trip a few hours from your home. You may not be able to do this all the time, but it could jump-start your sex life.

Step 5

Talk about your desires. Talking about his lack of desire could make him feel embarrassed and even less likely to want sex. While it’s good to talk about your desire for more sex, you should approach it from an angle of what you want rather than what he’s not giving you. For example, say that you want to feel closer to him rather than saying that you feel like he doesn’t desire you.

Step 6

Encourage your man to visit the doctor. Some sexual problems really are physical. For example, testosterone levels begin to drop after a man turns 30. The doctor can diagnose the reason for low sexual desire and prescribe medication that can help.