A stressful event for most people, divorce can create a great upheaval in your life. Like other difficult situations, developing a plan of action and a positive attitude can help you through this experience. Learning to cope with your emotions, while planning for your future, can cause stress and frustration. Focus on your priorities and learn to accomplish one thing at a time while you navigate the difficult turns and twists of the divorce process.
Divorce proceedings vary from state to state, but they usually involve a basic process. Consult your attorney or court clerk to obtain the necessary paperwork and determine the amount of time your divorce may require. Even if you decide to represent yourself, a consultation with an attorney can answer your questions and point you in the right direction. Your court may recommend you and your husband seek the services of a mediator to resolve any disagreements during your divorce proceedings.
Your Personal Well-Being
The amount of work you may need to accomplish in a limited period of time may leave you with little energy to focus on your emotional well-being. Make your emotional health a priority. A good attitude and positive frame of mind will help you maintain a level head when dealing with the financial issues of your divorce. Take time to renew yourself through physical activities you enjoy, such as bicycling, walking, swimming and tennis. Promote good health by consuming a balanced diet and limiting your intake of unhealthy substances, including drugs and alcohol.
Consider the Kids
Even though you may boast of an immaculate parenting record, parenting children during your divorce may cause you to struggle and feel like you are floundering. Reassure your children that you and their father still love them and won’t stop being their parents. Avoid making negative comments about your husband in front of your kids. Your children may worry about the future. They may wonder how the divorce will change things, such as their living arrangements, schools, sports and friends.
Address your financial concerns. Sweeping them under the rug won’t make them go away. Sort through and review all your financial records with a fine-toothed comb. Develop a realistic budget that considers the amount of money you require to pay your bills and support your children. Clearly outline your expenses and income when compiling your financial statement for the court. Depending on your employment and your bills, you may need to cut back on expenses, look for a new job or move to a less-expensive home.
Although your divorce may signal the end of your marriage, it also provides an opportunity for a fresh start. Allow yourself time to grieve the death of your marriage and your future together, but plan for your future. Envision what you want for your future and begin working toward your goals. This can be a great time to start a new hobby, go back to school, join an interesting club and make new friends.
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