Let’s face it: Men can be difficult to understand. If your guy isn’t upfront about his feelings, you may be wondering whether or he’s really in love or still playing the field. While there are no sure-fire ways to tell–as every many is different–certain signs can help you tell if your man is in love.
Harvard psychologist Zick Rubin did a study that determined that people in love look at each other 75 percent of the time, while those who are not in love only look at each other 30 to 60 percent of the time. They are also slower to look away when something or someone distracts them.
If a guy is in love with you, he’s planning a future that includes you. Pay attention to what he says about his dreams five or 10 years from now and see how often those dreams include you. For example, he may talk about buying a house together or going on vacation with you.
He may be showing more empathy toward your feelings, such as picking up on it when you’re feeling sad, nervous or excited. You may also see that he starts to exhibit the same feelings as you, sharing in your emotions.
A guy who is in love will trust you. He may tell you a secret that his best friend told him not to tell or he may allow you to answer the phone at his home.
Making Space for You
If he’s in love, he’ll start making space for you in his home. He might give you your own drawer or space in the closet for your clothes and he might start buying some of your favorite things, including foods or shampoos.
Part of the Family
A guy in love will treat you like part of his family and feel a part of yours. He’ll assume that you’ll be there with him at his cousin’s wedding or grandpa’s funeral. He’ll feel comfortable going out for a beer with your brother.
Talks About Children
Many men do eventually want children and if he starts talking about children–especially about children with you–it can be a sign that he’s in love with you.
After awhile, you may not even have to ask for his help. He’ll assume that he’s the one picking you up from the airport after your business trip. If he’s handy around the house, he’ll fix that leaky faucet without even asking.
As anyone in love knows, sometimes you have to make sacrifices for the ones you love. These sacrifices may range from something small such as going to see the movie that you want to see instead of the one he wants, or to bigger sacrifices such as missing the big game to attend your best friend’s wedding.
Stands Close in Public
If your guy stands close to you in public, he’s demonstrating that he’s taken. It also shows that he wants to be close to you for the occasional kiss, hand holding or snuggling.