Anyone who has ever loved and lost knows the feeling of being lovelorn. It can be difficult to let go of a relationship, particularly when you still hold feelings for your past partner. While nothing can quite extinguish the burning flame of disappointment that rests in the gut of a lovelorn individual, those still full of desire for a lost partner can alleviate some pain with simple, self-reflective, activities.
Playing the Field Can Be Fun
Many lovelorn individuals lament having to look for dates and want to just curl up on the sofa with a special someone. While playing the field can be physically and emotionally taxing, it can also be an enjoyable experience. By dreading your man scouting expeditions, you will only make yourself more and more dismayed with your love life. Instead, think of all the possibilities that your singledom presents. Have fun meeting new people and forming new and exciting bonds.
Don’t Blame Yourself
As you mope over your lost love, you may turn to blaming yourself for the relationship’s dissolution. Many women fresh from a break-up spend copious amounts of energy trying to decide what they should have done differently. As reported in the “Washington Post,” this type of behavior is self-destructive and counterproductive. Likely, neither you nor your partner were blameless when it comes to your relationship’s end. Be positive. Stop beating yourself up over something that was likely not your fault alone.
Be Your Own World
When in the midst of a love affair, it can seem as if your partner is your life. When your spark fizzles and you go your separate ways, it can feel like your world is crumbling around you. Instead of making the end of your relationship into a dire and life-changing event, keep the importance of the relationship in perspective. Don’t allow your break-up to dunk you into a tank of depression. Instead, spend time focusing on yourself to ensure that you come out on the other end of the relationship stronger and more fabulous than ever.
Find a Supportive Shoulder
If you are still yearning for a long lost love, the answer to your woes may be as simple as having a conversation with a trusted friend. As “Psychology Today Magazine” reports, talking to someone about your feelings can be highly therapeutic. When it all becomes just too much to bear, sit down with a trusted friend and get the weight of your feelings off your chest. You will likely feel much better after your friendly conference.
Consider the Reality of the Rekindle
Most lovelorn individuals would love to re-enter their previous relationship. While it may seem like a desirable option to get back with your lost love, if you can divorce yourself from the emotions and think logically, you will likely find that the prospect is not as appealing as it may initially appear. When thinking about seeking an encore relationship, consider the reasons why you and your partner broke up in the first place. In all likelihood, your relationship always had flaws and simply jumping right back into it would only lead to a second bout of heartbreak.
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