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Twins And Birthday Parties: Do You Have To Invite Both?

August 7, 2017 by PLAYTHISWAY Leave a Comment

How do you handle twins and birthday parties?

As a mother of two sets of twins, the daughter of twins, and the daughter-in-law of twins (crazy, huh?) I’m tackling this issue with a lot of experience.

Here are a few of the most commonly asked questions:

1. If you invite a child to a birthday party, should you invite his or her twin as well, even if they are not in the same class?

When you are able to – YES. This is even more important when children are school age and twins are the same sex. Here’s why:

1. Twin friendships may become complicated and balancing triangulation (he’s MY friend, he’s YOUR friend) is often a challenge for parents of twins.

2. The following year, the twin class matching may switch (your kid ends up with the other twin).

3. Parents of twins (trust me) have a juggling act when one kid has a party and the other kid doesn’t.

4. Twins give double gifts (hee hee).

2. If you’re going to a twin-twin birthday party, but your kid only knows one of them, what do you do about gifts?

I do not think it is necessary to get both twins a separate gift if your child only has a relationship with one. A small token for the other twin is nice, or a gift both can share – but buying both gifts is really not necessary. I believe it is the host’s role to explain to both children how the “gift” thing works with twins.

3. If you are twin parent and going to a party with both kids, what about gifts?

As a mom of two sets, I simply buy one more expensive gift (instead of spending $20.00 I spend $40.00). This year I’ve been getting snow cone makers for our gifts. Yes, you should get either two separate gifts or in some way acknowledge the extension of the double invite.

4. What do you do if you can’t tell twins apart?

Ask the parent for a distinguishing characteristic. We’re used to it!

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About PLAYTHISWAY

Dr. Jen Canter, aka Dr. Jen® is a double board certified pediatrician, professor, researcher, published author, and, last but not least, mom to two sets of twins. In all her spare time, shes an entrepreneur! In 2008 she invented the U-Play Mat®, now licensed by Sassy Baby® for the mass-market baby toy category, and started a fun & cool adventure. Dr. Jen believes play can permeate every aspect of parenthood, from exercising and eating well to using love and laughter to raise happy, well-adjusted little people who can tackle anything life hands to them with creativity & self-assurance. Dr. Jen chronicles her journey as a professional and a mom, while at the same time sharing her hard-earned wisdom with warmth, wit and a healthy dose of humor. Because she understands the darker side of parenthood as one of a handful of Child Abuse Pediatricians nationwide, Dr. Jen is committed to leading a life filled with light & balance. Have a playdate with Dr. Jen by going to her website: www.playthisway.com Dr. Jen
Pediatrician, Mom of Two Sets of Twins
Inventor of the U-Play Mat
Website: www.playthisway.com
Twitter: @PLAYTHISWAY

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