• Skip to content
  • Skip to secondary menu
  • Skip to primary sidebar
  • Skip to footer
  • Home
  • Shop ModernMom
  • Become An Insider

ModernMom

The premiere destination for moms

  • Parenting
    • Pregnancy
    • Baby
    • Kids
    • Tweens and Teens
    • ModernMom Monday Videos
  • Cooking
  • Living Healthy
    • Breast Cancer
    • Health & Fitness
    • Body after Baby
    • Beauty
    • Relationships
    • Love
  • Lifestyle
    • Crafts
    • At Home
    • Education
    • Travel
    • Pets
    • Decorate
    • Money
    • Brooke Burke
  • Celebrate
    • Holidays
      • Easter
      • Valentine’s Day
      • New Year’s
      • Christmas
      • Hanukah
      • Halloween
      • Thanksgiving
    • Birthdays
    • Parties
  • Must Have
  • Contests
  • Entertainment

“Empty Nest” Putting Me Through The Test

August 24, 2010 by Shaun_Sturz Leave a Comment

Ok folks it looks like the summer has come to an end.  There are no more lazy days by the pool, no more BBQ’s at the park, no more sleeping in, and most importantly no more kids around.  Now, we child-rearing adults, are faced with the fact that our kids are at school, leaving us with an empty house and an uncomfortable void to fill.  Awe, this is what the experts call “empty nest syndrome”.  We can choose to dwell on this fact and sulk in our sorrows, or we can move forward and learn something new.  Personally, I always choose to move forward.  How do we move forward on may ask?  Let me share with you some coping mechanisms that have helped me.

Acceptance and Realization.  The first stage in any type of recovery is acceptance. Accepting that you are now home alone is major.  This type of realization is monumental in the progress one will see while dealing with the “empty nest”.

Planning.  I can not stress enough the importance of planning.  Planning time to be with the kids when they are home, planning time to do activities with other like peers, planning to exercise, planing the next weeks grocery list, planning, planning, planing! (It helps take up time our new found “empty nest” free time gives us during the day)

Experiencing.  To move forward in life one must constantly experience new things.  Enjoy new experiences while you can, because you can only experience something the first time, one time!

Communicating.  Don’t keep things bottled inside, but don’t be too clingy.  Tell the kids you miss them, or leave them a note in their lunch pales.  Moms- crying when saying good bye is a bit much, so buck up.  Dads- you usually know how to control the water works, but a tear or two every once in a while is good. It is just the yin and the yang of things. 

Lightening up.  It is definitely not the end of the world, kids always come home from school, and by bed time I am pretty sure you will be exhausted and ready to sleep as well.  For the parents with college aged kids out there don’t worry, they will be back for those home-cooked meals and to do the stinky laundry!  I know always did when I was in college!

Laughing.  Laughing just feels good and makes any situation better!

~ Happiness can exist only in acceptance. ~
   Denis De Rougamont

The term planning implies the working out of sub-components in some degree of elaborate detail.Planning literally just means the creation of a plan; it can be as simple as making a list.
Wikipedia

Men can EXPERIENCE too! Check this AMAZING video out.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6AdFdmE9A84

“Imagine if humans could not communicate.  We would look like chickens with our heads cut off running around.  So just communicate already!”
Shaun Sturz

FACT: Laughing makes you live longer, is heart healthy and good for the brain.

Comments

comments

Filed Under: Uncategorized

About Shaun_Sturz

Not many guys can call themselves a manny (male nanny), but I can! It takes a ModernMom and Dad to let a manny into their private life. As a manny I have a different approach and different agenda then the normal run-of-the-mill gray haired, mothball smelling nanny. It requires that I use a take no prisoners attitude. Most of all, it takes a BIG heart, and someone who enjoys watching SpongeBob SquarePants. All of my passions in life have led me back to working with kids in one way or another- probably because I am just an overgrown 62 kid myself. Shaun Sturz

Reader Interactions

Primary Sidebar

Search

Tell a friend

  • Facebook
  • Instagram
  • Pinterest
  • Twitter
  • YouTube
ModernMom Boutique

ModernMom TV

Featured

We Are Never “Asking For It”

The following is a guest post by Alane Miller Howell, … [Read More...] about We Are Never “Asking For It”

Must Have

STEM-related Toys to Include in Your Child’s Easter Basket This Year 

April has arrived which means it’s time to pull out the food … [Read More...] about STEM-related Toys to Include in Your Child’s Easter Basket This Year 

Did you know?

Coconut Oil

Why Coconut Oil Is So Good For Pregnant & Nursing Mothers

substitution for oil in baking brownies

Substitution for Oil in Baking Brownies

Negative Effects of Single Parent Homes

The Negative Effects of Single Parent Homes on Children

Refrigerate Fresh Lemon Juice

How Long Can You Refrigerate Fresh Lemon Juice?

Repair Scratches in Glass Tabletops

How to Repair Scratches in Glass Tabletops

When Can a Baby Hear in the Womb

When Can a Baby Hear in the Womb ?

Pregnancy and Sinus Pain

Pregnancy and Sinus Pain

Footer

  • About Us
  • Contact ModernMom
  • Advertise With Us
  • Press
  • Privacy Policy
  • Terms of Use
  • Contributors

Copyright © 2023 Modern Mom. All Rights Reserved.

Reproduction of any portion of this website only at the express permission of Mom, Inc.

The information provided on ModernMom is for educational use only. It should not be used as a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.