• Home
  • Brooke Burke
  • Must Have
  • Recalls
  • Contributors
  • Contests & Twitter Parties
  • Become An Insider
  • ModernMom Store

ModernMom

The premiere destination for moms

  • Parenting
    • Pregnancy
    • Baby
    • Kids
    • Tweens and Teens
    • Ask Dr. Psych Mom
  • Cooking
  • Around The House
    • Crafts
    • At Home
    • Education
    • Travel
    • Pets
    • Decorate
    • Money
  • Career
  • Living Healthy
    • Breast Cancer
    • Health & Fitness
    • Body after Baby
    • Beauty
    • Relationships
    • Love
  • Celebrate
    • Holidays
      • Easter
      • Valentine’s Day
      • New Year’s
      • Christmas
      • Hanukah
      • Halloween
      • Thanksgiving
    • Birthdays
    • Parties
  • Tech
  • Entertainment
  • Hot Topics
  • Games
You are here: Home / Relationships / Love / How To Keep It Hot with Your Husband

How To Keep It Hot with Your Husband

December 21, 2008 by ModernMom Staff Leave a Comment

Let’s say you’re in a long-term relationship (either married or living together), and sex with your partner has become as frequent as a Paris Hilton Oscar nomination. What do you do to get the fire burning again? As a dating coach and a man who’s been there himself, I have a few tips to share with you:

1. Go out on a date with your partner and reconnect emotionally with him. Enjoy a night together without the children, without ESPN SportsCenter blaring in the background, without the Lifetime TV movie of the week playing, and without your BlackBerry next to you. Go out on a date like you did in the beginning of your relationship. Get all dolled up, splash on your favorite perfume, and go out and flirt with your long-time boyfriend or husband. It’s not just the time spent together that’s important to your partner – he also loves knowing that you’ve made an effort for him.

2. Set up a treasure hunt that takes the two of you to a different part of town. Most cities have cheaper hotel rates on the weekend, especially in the business district, an area that typically clears out by Saturday morning. Line up a trusted babysitter for the kids, and tell your husband that you have a surprise for him on Saturday night. That evening, check into the hotel by yourself, and then feed your husband clues, one by one, about where to meet you. For example, “Meet me in the parking lot of the supermarket at 6:00 p.m.” You want to throw him totally off base.

When he gets to the market, text him this message: “Pick up two bottles of [your favorite bottle of wine]. Further instructions to follow in 20 minutes.”

In twenty minutes, text him again and say “Meet me in the lobby of Hotel ____.  It’s located at the corner of ____ & _____.  Text me when you get to the lobby.”

When he does, text him back and say “Go up to Room ___ and knock four times so I’ll know it’s you.” When he arrives at the room, be sure to have candles lit everywhere. You should be sheathed in something sexy.

Have mood-setting music playing, a big frothy bath bubbling away, and massage oil by the bed. Allow the night to be all about pampering each other. The bounty in this treasure hunt is you, of course, and the two of you will be in for some major passion and reconnection.

For those of you who’ve gone a while without putting aside such special time for each other, you might feel awkward doing something as elaborate as this. But trust me, the effort will be worth it. And the night will set the stage for other rendezvous to follow.

3. One night a week, set up an at-home pampering night.  Take turns so that one week it’s your turn to indulge him, and the next week it’s his turn to return the favor. “Pampering night” can involve an array of different things: a picnic in the bedroom, giving a hot oil massage, or getting creative again with your sexual desires for each other.

Keeping it hot with your husband is all about tossing some spice into the everyday mix. If you’d like more tips on how to turn up the heat in your relationship, feel free to email me. Just write “Modern Mom in Need of Love” in the subject line. I’ll be sure to send you some more of my favorite sure-fire recipes to get your love life back on track.


Dating coach, blogger and author David Wygant has been featured on more than 2,000 radio and television shows including Dateline, CBS Good Morning, and MTV. Get more sex and dating tips on David’s interactive blog at davidwygant.com

Comments

comments

Filed Under: Love

About ModernMom Staff

Search

  • Facebook
  • Google+
  • Instagram
  • Pinterest
  • Twitter
  • YouTube
ModernMom Boutique ModernMom Boutique

ModernMom TV

Kissing Kids on the Lips: Fine or Not?

Kissing Kids on the Lips: Fine or Not?

I recently read an article that says that parents should not …[Read More...]

ModernMom TV

Can a Women Get Pregnant if She Is Not Ovulating?

Can a Women Get Pregnant if She Is Not Ovulating?

Technically, no. According to the U.S. Dept. of Health and …[Read More...]

How to Bake Frozen and Pre-Breaded Chicken

How to Bake Frozen and Pre-Breaded Chicken

How to Bake Frozen and Pre-Breaded Chicken Convenience …[Read More...]

Does Pregnancy Cause Flu-Like Symptoms?

Does Pregnancy Cause Flu-Like Symptoms?

Several pregnancy symptoms do indeed mimic flu symptoms, …[Read More...]

Night Sweats During Pregnancy

Night Sweats During Pregnancy

Most new mothers know that they will not get much sleep due …[Read More...]

Male Fertility Tips

Male Fertility Tips

Men make up half of the equation in baby making, and it's …[Read More...]

Signs and Symptoms of Diabetes in Infants

Signs and Symptoms of Diabetes in Infants

Diabetes can affect individuals of any age, including …[Read More...]

How Early to Take a Pregnancy Test

How Early to Take a Pregnancy Test

If you are trying to become pregnant or suspect you might …[Read More...]

  • About Us
  • Contact ModernMom
  • Advertise With Us
  • Press
  • Privacy Policy
  • Terms of Use

Copyright © 2019 · Mom, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
Reproduction of any portion of this website only at the express permission of Mom, Inc. The information provided on ModernMom is for educational use only. It should not be used as a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.