If you love your sex life–yet wish the act of sex lasted a little longer–you are not alone. The National Health and Social Life Survey found that thirty percent of men orgasm within the first two minutes of sex. Many women also have this problem, though experts don’t agree on the number of women affected. Thankfully, there are some things that can be done to help both men and women last longer during intercourse.
The easiest way to make sex last longer is by focusing your attention on your partner. Do things that makes her feel good. Concentrate less on yourself. Taking your mind off your own pleasure for a little while will make the act last longer than keeping your mind on the one specific goal of reaching a climax.
If you do find yourself reaching orgasm too quickly, there are several ways to stave it off. First, you can stop the sensation that is causing you to orgasm. Take a few minutes to simply kiss or give pleasure exclusively to your partner. If you don’t like the idea of stopping, then try visualization. Try to think of something that doesn’t stimulate you sexually for a few seconds. This will calm you down.
You can also buy desensitizing creams, such as All Night Long Erection Desensitizing Cream or Kama Sutra Desensitizing Pleasure Balm. Creams are applied to the genitals, and they create a numbing effect. This effect will keep you from getting aroused too quickly. You can buy these creams at brick-and-mortar or online sensual product shops such as Adam and Eve or the Adult Toy Shop.
Even if the male does ejaculate early, the female can still continue to orgasm with the help of a simple, soft jelly-like ring that fits around the penis. The penis ring, like the Quick Release Erection Ring or the Erecaid Tension Band, keeps the member erect after ejaculation so that intercourse can continue. Many men find that it also delays orgasm. You can buy these rings at online shops or brick-and-mortar sensual product shops.
There are certain positions that men can do to help them last longer during sex. One is the body-to-body missionary position where the man lays on top of the woman. The woman and man use very little movement in this arrangement, keeping the sex slow and steady. Another position that can be used is woman-on-top. In this scenario, the woman is in control, and the man is submissive. The lack of control can keep premature ejaculations at bay while allowing both partners to enjoy the moment.