He seems to be everything you could ever want in a man. He is intelligent, good-looking, compassionate and ambitious. So far he has introduced you to all his friends and he now wants to take you home to his parents’ house for the holidays. It seems like you two are headed for a long-term relationship, possibly even marriage. While you know you have a great time with him and all your friends think he is perfect, you might still be curious about your compatibility.
Compare his family to yours. It is important that the two of you have similar beliefs about gender roles, finances and behaviors during stressful times. People typically mirror the way they were raised when it comes to these issues, therefore, you need to examine the two families and determine if they have similar beliefs. It doesn’t mean they have to be financially matched, but that they need to manage their finances in similar fashion.
Observe how he treats friends and family. It is an excellent indicator of how he will treat you over the long haul, according to the Two of Us website. If he is the type who puts a great deal of thought into gift giving during the holidays, is available to help a buddy move on the weekend and treats his little sister to a movie now and again, chances are he will also treat you and your family with love and respect.
Examine his maturity level. Is he selfish or does he consider how his words and actions impact others? Discover what his decision-making process is. If he examines several solutions and then chooses the best resolution at the time, it is an indicator that he has matured enough to have a serious, long-term relationship.
Take part in activities with him. While it is acceptable and appropriate to maintain separate interests and hobbies, it is also important that the two of you have things in common. Spending some time taking part in various activities together will let you know if the two of you are friends as well as lovers. If you enjoy being with each other company during slow Sunday afternoons and Friday night bowling, perhaps you have what it takes to make it together.
Take your time. When you first meet, that new love feeling can be a bit overwhelming and both of you are putting your best foot forward, however, as time moves on you both will begin showing your true personalities. It is important that you take the time to examine your relationship from several angles. If it turns out that you two have more similarities than differences, you are most likely compatible.
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