When women list the things that they want, love is often at the top. Nearly every woman wants a partner to share her life with. Having a mate makes some feel whole and gives others the security that they desire. It can, at times, seem like men are on a different planet and, as such, impossible to communicate with; however, if you want to land a man, you must become fluent in his language and dedicate some energy to the task of roping a fellow.
Be open with him. Many women eager to attract the man of their dreams attempt to become the thing that they think a man will want. In doing this, they put their personalities on the back-burner and adopt a well-planned persona. This action, while seemingly logical, is actually not the most effective way to get the guy who is perfect for you. The man you attract by doing this will not be someone who loves you for you, but instead someone who loves the person that you temporarily became. Make sure that the man you attract has staying power. Be yourself and do not hide your real personality from your desired mate.
Give him some space. After they fall head-over-heals, many women try to spend every waking minute with their new guy. While this drive is natural, attaching yourself to your guys hip is not effective in creating a lasting love. Many men feel smothered and put off by a girl who tries to integrate herself too fully into their lives. Respect his need for some alone time instead of immediately filling his drawers with spare sets of clothes to increase the likelihood that the new romance lasts.
Primp a bit. As the “Psychology Today Magazine” website reports, many men develop feelings of love for women that they find physically attractive. This drive to form a bond with a beauty stems from ancient times when the search for a partner was predominantly about the continuation of the species. While the human race does not appear to be in any risk of dying out, many caveman-esque men still seek a perfect physical specimen. While you shouldn’t feel the need to change your body completely to meet his physical needs, spending a little bit of extra time in front of the mirror may not be a bad idea.
Respond to his needs. Everyone likes to be pampered. Make the guy you desire see that you truly care about him by going out of your way to do things for him. This doesn’t mean that you need to quit your day job and become his beck-and-call girl, but instead that you should attempt to go the extra mile–within reason–when planning events for you to share. Even though it may seem that some men don’t notice the little extras, if you are persistent with your added affections, he will eventually catch on and appreciate the romantic attention.
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