It’s natural to experience ebbs and flows in your sex drive, but if you’re currently at a low point, it can negatively affect your relationship. Your doctor may suggest estrogen or testosterone therapy, but you do have other options if you want to avoid medication. You may find that in no time at all, you’re heating things up.
Exercise on a regular basis. Being physically active can increase your energy and stamina in bed. It can also make you feel better about your looks, which can translate into an increased sexual desire.
Ask for help around the house. It’s difficult to feel sexy when you’ve got a pile of dirty dishes, clean clothes sitting in the dryer and a ring of dirt around the bath tub. Stress and exhaustion is a leading cause of low sex drive in women. If your guy resists, remind him that if you are less stressed, he gets more action in bed.
Wear sexy lingerie. If you are wearing something that makes you feel sexy all day, it gets your mind in the mood for sex. The more you think about sex, the more you’ll want it.
Suggest something new. Your lack of desire may stem from boredom. If you always do the same things in the same place at the same time, it’s easy to see why you might not want to do it again. Trying something that’s outside of your comfort zone–a new position or a new toy, for example–could get you raring to go again.
Take herbs that increase your libido. Ginkgo biloba and vitamin B5, for example, can increase your sex drive. Ask your doctor to see if these with conflict with any medications you are currently taking.
Fake it until you make it. While you shouldn’t feel obliged to say “yes” every time your man comes on to you, you may find that once you get started, you actually enjoy sex, even though you didn’t initially have the desire. The more sex you have, the more you’ll want.
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