Getting a divorce can cause emotional upheaval and extreme distress. Many women experience feelings of anger, exhaustion, anxiety and depression during and after the divorce process. Like many other experiences in life, you can take certain steps to minimize negative outcomes by approaching your divorce with the most positive attitude you can muster. Although your divorce may cause numerous difficulties and concerns, you can improve upon this life-changing experience and promote a good outcome.
Learn to negotiate. Divorce requires you to divide everything from household goods to parenting time. Focus on your priorities by making a list of the items you feel strongly about keeping and the ones you are willing to lose. A good divorce, like a good marriage, requires a little give and take. Sometimes, raging emotions make it difficult for you and your husband to negotiate. If this is the case, consult a mediator or divorce counselor to help you discuss things in a rational manner.
Plan for the future. Divorce requires you to reassess your future goals and hopes. A future plan can help you focus on positive ways to obtain your new goals. Good planning can help alleviate financial difficulties and reduce fears of the unknown. Take charge of your life and direct your future by considering your goals, options and desires.
Take care of yourself. You may find that your divorce feels like a large, physical wound. Allow yourself time to grieve and explore your feelings. Much like losing a loved one, divorce can promote feelings of grief. Help yourself withstand the stress by eating a healthy diet, getting adequate sleep and taking care of your health and well-being. Pamper yourself by setting aside time for activities you enjoy, such as leisurely walks, meditation, getting a massage or taking a small vacation.
Develop a healthy social life. Good friends and loving relatives will help you through your divorce, making it a better experience. A positive social life can help you put the past behind you and open the door to new relationships. Be open and share your feeling with those close to you, but avoid saying negative things about your ex-husband to casual acquaintances and co-workers.
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