Divorce is often considered to be a bad word, and many people respond
to it in the same way they would a contagious disease. Divorce is so
taboo that many married people would rather stay in an awful marriage
than go the route of separation and divorce.
Social Relationships Change
One of the greatest fears around divorce stems from the change that
inevitably takes place during this life transition. Many of our
clients report that the hardest change to adjust to is in their
relationships with their friends and family. After a divorce, social
invitations dwindle, and family members might distance themselves due
to feeling uncomfortable or uncertain about how to help. Our clients
often express that they are no longer invited to social gatherings
with other couples now that they are considered “single”, and that
their married friends often choose sides, deciding which person fits
best into their life. We often see the person who finds a new partner
first “winning” old friends forcing their ex out of the circle.
A Diseased Marriage
Divorce rates are staggering, yet divorce is still considered to be
unmentionable. It’s not divorce that is the misfortune; it’s the need
to stay in a diseased marriage. Divorce can be contagious, as recent
studies show, yet our attention should shift to the contagion of a
diseased marriage.
Recovery is Possible
Similar to a surgery, divorce is a trauma to your life, and requires
proper treatment and care to fully recover. When fully recovered a
new life, even better than before is possible.
About the Authors
Andra Brosh, Ph.D. and Allison Pescosolido, M.A. are the leading
divorce recovery experts in Los Angeles. Founders of Divorce Detox, a
proven program guaranteed to speed recovery through the divorce
transition, Andra and Allison are certified grief recovery experts,
and both hold advanced degrees in the field of psychology. Friends for
over 20 years, these dynamic women treat the trauma of divorce and see
divorce as an opportunity for personal growth and a better life; they
are changing the face of divorce in our society. Visit
www.divorcedetox.com to learn more about their programs and
cutting-edge work.
