“When are you going to start using your brain?” Come on, we have all said it at one time or another when our kids are not making the best of choices. And sometimes, those choices are pretty unbelievable. But, the truth is, we cannot expect our kids to use their brains unless they learn how. For the past 6 years, my goal has been to create a model to help people understand … [Read more...] about Use Your Brain!
The media is filled with news about bullying. The question is, does all of the attention help to decrease the bullying? Unfortunately, the answer is not clear. In order to address bullying, we need to try a different strategy, one that addresses the roles that kids choose. We need to focus our attention on teaching kids resilience. We need to teach kids how to respond to … [Read more...] about A New Strategy For Bullying: Teaching Resilience
It’s that time again..summer. Most of us are excited to take a little break from the school routine--waking up early, rushing out to get everyone to school on time, and, worst of all, making sure all of the homework is done. Summer vacation offers a chance for a little bit more relaxation, but it can quickly go from relaxing to reacting if you aren’t careful. The sibling … [Read more...] about Summer Survival: Sibling Rivalry, Whining, Messes…
There is a growing realization that academic ability is less likely to predict future success than qualities such as perseverance and resilience. Check out this clip from one of my favorite Saturday Night Live skits: You Can Do Anything. The skit is a parody of the self-esteem movement, in which kids receive trophies for showing up, are showered with unearned praise, and … [Read more...] about Are We Pushing Our Kids Into a Self-Esteem Trap?
I have a trampoline. Several kids bounce on it at once. And a treehouse. Both present my kids with what I call "calculated risk"--I know that there is a chance that they could get hurt, yet I let them play anyway. We go hiking and climb the big rocks. We pull over to the side of the road to pick raspberries. They jump from rock-to-rock across the river. They throw each … [Read more...] about The Benefits of Risk